Girls, do you ever feel bad for rejecting a guy who really liked you? (Page 6)

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If he actually had the guts to say it flat out face to face with you? I know I'd be really hurt and frustrated if a girl rejected me, and if I had to reject a girl who really liked me. I just want to know what you girls think. Give your opinions on this.

coolgirl97 · Answer

I guess it is quite sad being rejected and its not a nice thing to do or feel. However when ever I've rejected men I look at it by their best interest its better if they get rejected by someone they don't like rather than being Lead on thinking someone likes them, because at the end at least they end up with someone that will love them in return that they love

Qwertyuiop31 · Answer

I always feel bad when rejecting a guy.. I don't care if he is super unattractive or weird, I still feel horrible.. I don't like hurting people's feelings and I know that if someone rejected me I'd be crushed.. When I was in middle school I rejected a guy that I was close friends with and he cried so I especially don't like doing it now. Hope this answered your question ;)

Lunako · Answer

I might feel bad for a few moments, but overall no. Yeah it sucks being rejected and all, but there are valid reasons. Sometimes there's no mutual chemistry, no common ground. But in my experience, there has been a lot of red flags, that despite how he may like me, those red flags cannot be ignored. (i. e calling 20 times a day from work phone, mysogynistic remarks, etc)

Jaz1295 · Answer

I would feel bad for hurting him, but in the long run I would think I did the right thing. Instead of leading him on, because I'd feel worse pretending to like him when I don't.

jewelledeyes · Answer

I definitely feel horrible. I try my best to be as nice as possible without giving them the wrong impression that could lead them on. Even now I think about all the guys who had gathered the courage to express themselves and I hope they found their happiness and have long forgotten about me.

leahbobeah · Answer

I've had to turn down a few nice guys, myself. I felt bad--it sucks to get turned down, and to turn someone down is no picnic either. There's no better way to do it then the honest way. Be honest about how you feel--but also think about how you'd want them to say it, if you were the one being turned down. Nobody likes getting the run around.

snsdloveesther · Answer

I feel bad for that person, unless if he is like the most unpopular guy in our school and eats his booger or sth like that. But most of the time I will feel really bad about it.

al_hayya · Answer

yea i feel bad for rejecting him.. but better to make him clear is more impt thn keep hisself in doubts.. i can't rlx someone with my lies. simply.. i will respect his feelings i will try to undrtnd my view in very polite way rather thn to show a stupid behave.

jniffer · Answer

for me , i'd like to know turly the feeling from your deep-heart. if rejecting is your choice, i'll respect it and thank you. i know i can not focus on just you. anyway i think you should know the personality of that girl. then you can reject her in a proper way. what do you think?

DakotaFlies · Answer

It really depends on what kind of person they both are. If the guy's a jerk then of course I wouldn't feel bad. I have a big heart though and I've been on the rejection side. It doesn't feel good at all. I always feel for them and it's a really hard thing to do! Some girls don't care at all if they hurt the guy but I personally hurt myself emotionally when I reject a guy because I hurt his feelings.

rumple · Answer

I regret breaking up with my ex 4 years ago. Karma's a bitch. He chased after me but I kept rejecting him. I couldn't sort out my feelings... Too emotional. Anyway if it was a relationship and you were together for a long time, she might end up regretting it. If you dated for a few months or not at all, she probably doesn't think of you in that way or she might not think of you at all.

Infernessa · Answer

I feel really guilty, because I know how it feels to be on the other side of the coin, but I try to tell myself that's best for both of us. For myself, obviously because I don't like him, but I also try to tell myself that at least if I'm honest then he can move on to someone who really does feel that way about him, like he deserves.

shiiiet · Answer

Wow, a lot of girls actually feel bad rejecting guys. I do attribute the high ratio to the way the options are phrased but, this was still way more than I expected.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course I feel bad after rejecting him - I don't like upsetting or hurting anyone, but figure that if I'm not into him it is only fair to be honest.

hvpster_shvt · Answer

I feel bad for 2 days but, in the end, at least you were honest because you would hurt the person more by pretending you had the same feelings for them.

romancequeen · Answer

yes I feel bad but, you have to be honest. I feel worse if I give a guy false hopes

alleywonderland · Answer

i hate to be regented and i hate regent someone it hurts

Anonymous · Answer

I feel bad especially if he was a good guy but I would feel even worse if I lied and said yes and then later on hurt his feelings, so it is best to just tell the truth, he will get over it

Meema · Answer

I never worried about hurting his feelings because I assumed he was manly enough to take it!

Anonymous · Answer

i personally have felt bad sometimes because i would be sad if i was rejected. so to answer your question it just depends on the girl and what she thought of you.

BittyBear1617 · Answer

I would feel absolutely terrible if he was genuine. Now if this guy has a record of jumping from girl to girl, I could care less. I would not reject him unless I could not stand him or we are really REALLY different.

Pucette · Answer

yes it's always very hard, but sometimes it's the necessary thing to do

ASHTIE · Answer

It depends as love is different from like, if he loves me and i leave yeah there will be feelings

Anonymous · Answer

Unless he's a jackass and asking me out as a joke, I always feel bad when I reject a guy. I usually make up an excuse which is pretty pathetic but I don't want to say outright that I don't like him.

Anonymous · Answer

I have done this and I've felt like shit every time I rejected someone, but I always explain that it isn't fair to them if I don't like them and pity say yes.

Anonymous · Answer

when a girl reject a guy they're reason why: first they may not like, a bad influence for you (if they're smart), not interested in dating or see you has a friend

Anonymous · Answer

For me it's 50% personality and 50% looks  If a guys has a lot of feelings for me and his personality is the best, but he's not that cute I might say yes.  Remember everyone has their own opinions

Dissonance · Answer

I have never felt bad for rejecting someone, while there's only been a small handful of guys I have had to reject I don't see why I should feel bad for not returning their feelings.

LizzieBabes419 · Answer

Of course. Sometimes I wish I had feelings for the guy so I wouldn't say no.

Anonymous · Answer

YES! Almost to the point where I just rather say yes cause I feel so bad about it. But I'd rather be honest and let them find someone else then to lie and lead anyone on.

jejejeje · Answer

Yes I do sometimes. It depends. If the person is nice but i just dont feel the same like he does. But if the guy is a jerk why should I feel bad? And it's not a good thing to accept someone that we dont like.

SS19811976 · Answer

It hurts both way but still its better now than to be bitter hurt later when truth is out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, this had happened to me a lot and I personally feel horrible every time but I would never go on a pity date with someone just based on how bad I feel.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, it depends. If I turn you down and you dont take me serious to the point I have to be harsh... NOT AT ALL.

Anonymous · Answer

I would feel terrible but I would be wasting his time in telling him different. It will take some time, but he will get over it. Might hate me, but at least I spoke the truth!

harakiri · Answer

yes. i would feel really bad.

3mily15 · Answer

Rejecting someone who really likes you hurts. I've been in that position so many times, and i t sucks to reject them. I hate the feeling of hurting someone, especially if they really like me.

DiggerForTeal · Answer

I think (or hope) every girl would feel bad! It takes a lot of guts to tell someone how you feel! I know I feel terrible!

MidnightCityBaby · Answer

Im horrible. I don't have the heart to flat out say "no" to a guy in his face. I would make an excuse later on for not dealing with him.

Gray-Queen · Answer

We feel bad man, but if I didn't like him back he better know it than to live in lie that I made so he won't get hurt

geraniumlove · Answer

To be honest, I find the emotional pain to be much worse when rejecting somebody I know really cared about me, than when somebody rejects me.

KylieChi · Answer

I wouldn't cry or feel guilty but I would defiantly feel bad. I've been rejected so knowing the experience is really bad

Ama11 · Answer

It depends of circumstances. That's the way life is. It isn't fair we learn my our mistakes or from bad experiences hill get over it.

Lonelywolf21 · Answer

Hhaha, well if I were a girl I would feel bad about it. So I would say A. Though, I got rejected by my crush and it broke me totally. :(

girl111m · Answer

I really feel bad if h really loves me and if he is not a player. I fell lke a terrible person.

MindYourEyes · Answer

Being rejected is never fun just as Much as rejecting a person yourself. It just suuucks ＠(￣-￣)＠

Anonymous · Answer

I'll feel bad rejecting him but I'd feel way worse if I don't reject him and lead him on even though I'm not attracted to him

Anonymous · Answer

If it is done right, then no... but if he is a harm, like a stalker, then I don't care how he feels... been there...

bonin331 · Answer

yes we always feel bad! and you shouldn't be upset about Her rejecting you! you're probably great and if she doesn't she that then you deserve better :)

peachgirl · Answer

Yes I always feel terribly bad. I don't ever like hurting a guy but it's best to turn him down than to lead them on... Which I do sometimes and don't even like the guy they just be nice guys.

BelleGirl21 · Answer

I would feel really really bad for a long time.

Jenny_SL · Answer

Neither because it's never that simple, he can be genuine and still be a total jerk, so much depends on the guy, his approach and tone.

kopeczgirl · Answer

I would feel bad because I have been in the same position. It all depends on the way the person is rejected.

linkywinky · Answer

I'm sure @Ihav2fart will recover in due time.

Anonymous · Answer

I once had a lad pluck up the courage to tell me he liked me, after passing me everyday on the way to the bus. I didn't know him and we talked a bit, but in the end I had to reject him because it wouldn't have come to anything and it would have been unfair to lead him on.

Arianna16 · Answer

omg how did u send this thing to everyone by email?

Anonymous · Answer

This is super natural to feel because here you have this person who, assuming is being genuine, cares so deeply for you - enough to risk whatever current relationship they have with you by letting you know how intimately they care for you... but unfortunately, you can't return that feeling. And it hurts, and it will for a while, but you and they will move past it.

misscocobutter · Answer

Yes it's a painful experience, it sucks for both people big time

NicoleJustine · Answer

Sometimes and i just don't want to hurt the guy because i have been hurt a lot and i don't want him to deal with me hurting him because of what's happened to me and sometimes no

LauraMarx · Answer

No. In fact, I am energized by it.

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