Guys, Is a guy’s way of saying I’ll think about it a hidden message for no? ?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been dating this guy for about three months and we had a little bit of misunderstanding from what I believe and we talked about it and I asked him if he felt better and he said he would have to think about it so for him saying that he’ll think about it is that his way of saying no?

[DaveJord]

All I can say is that he, if you asked him if he felt better, anything other YES is not a good answer. So, the fact that he didn't say no, is not a bad thing, but it's not a good thing either. He is definitely holding on to something and you two need to discuss that more.

In the end guys, well good guys, do not necessarily want or expect you to agree with them. Agreeing to disagree is perfectly fine. What they do want is for you to respect their feelings, even when you do not agree with them. You do not have to agree with them to respect them... because nobody has the right to tell you that your feelings are wrong or devalue them. They are your feelings and you have right to feel any way you want about something, but what you do not have the right to do, is tell someone their feelings are less than your own. So, you need to agree to disagree and then set boundaries on the subject and then honor those boundaries.

Some things you can totally accomplish this with, but if it's a deal breaker type of subject then... yeah chances are they will never be okay or completely over it.

[Asker]

So when he says that It’s ok.. I’ll talk to you later…hope you have a great night 💤 does he really mean that he’s going to talk to me later or is this a way of him saying I’m never going to talk to you

[DaveJord]

All depends on the conversation you had up to the point he told you good night. One would think that if he was okay with it, and was interested in you then he would talk now?

But maybe he was busy at the time and could not talk. But if he does not get back to you within 24 hours then he is probably not that interested... and thing more than 48 then he absolutely is not.

But what you need to do is NOT reach out to him... wait and see how long it take him to contact you and if he does not within the next day or so then you will know the answer.

[Asker]

It’s been three days since he said that! So he’s not going to talk to me not now not ever

[DaveJord]

Yeah, probably not.

[DaveJord]

After 3 days he is not interested in a relationship, if he contacts you, he is probably only interest in hooking up with you. He said it's okay, as in a way as saying, no hard feelings.

[Anonymous]

I think so.

[Opinion Owner]

Why not just say yes or no?