This man just ask me for money?

[Anonymous]

we’ve been talking for months few dates and sex twice.

“He stated the stated the next time have sex he want money”

very confused and concerned?

Updates

+1 y

So update he was just joking but it’s still on. I’m still confused and we’re still on the same place of weird just texting back-and-forth and there is no action so I’m probably just gonna stand by my decision and let it go.

[SteveSmith1985]

Ummm... that's concerning to put it mildly. I'll be honest, I've never run into this before. Ever. Never heard of this before. But it sounds like this guy's a gigalo.

But get the hell away from this guy. I don't know what HE thinks is going on between you two... but clearly it's REALLY different from what YOU think is going on between you two.

There is really nothing to talk about with him. No question you should seek to get answered. Block this guy, and cease all contact. This is some fucked up shit! Nothing good will come of this.

This is a HUGE red flag. This is NOT normal or usual AT ALL. Get out. Seriously!

[Asker]

Well thanks

[SteveSmith1985]

You're welcome. I'm blown away by this to be honest. I've seen a lot of weird and crazy shit happen in people's love lives... but this one is new. I'm so sorry this happened to you. But I am really glad you're going to end things. Do you mind if I ask what country you're from? (just ignore the question if you'd prefer not to answer)

[Asker]

The great USA lol

[SteveSmith1985]

Daaaaaaamn! That's crazy. I figured you must be somewhere with very different customs. I'm blown away by this.

[Asker]

I still want understanding of the situation and why don’t I
Things are going OK it was always weird because there is gaps in between is actually seeing one another and all of a sudden this happened he’s a black man with child

[Asker]

I don’t know what just happened

[Asker]

Like they were gap in between us talking, so I was already unsure. If he really wanted to take this serious then we started talking had sex then he disappear because he want money. For sex That’s the order and he has a kid

[SteveSmith1985]

Well... I don't think there's too much to understand. Evidently, this guy sees you as "a customer" not "a lover".

I can't believe what I'm hearing from you here. I only am confused because it seems like an odd business model for a gigalo, and no guy who wasn't a gigalo would ever THINK of trying to ask the girl he's talking to and sleeping with... for money for sex.

So It depends what you're ok with I guess. I assumed you were a girl looking for a relationship. If you're not appalled by the idea of being asked for money for sex, from the guy you're sleeping with... then... alright... power to you... do whatever makes you happy.

But if you're just a regular girl who thought she was talking to a regular guy and sleeping with a guy who was sleeping with her for the regular reason men sleep with women (they... enjoy it)... then... I have to ask what you're hoping to find out? What POSSIBLE combination of words could this man possibly put-together that would make this ok? Seriously.

[Asker]

Both situation seem horrible at this point bud regular and never thought it would turn into this but he said so I don’t think I’ll be hearing from him again. And at this point I don’t want to.

[SteveSmith1985]

Ok. Good. Maybe I misunderstood you earlier. It's GOOD that you don't want to hear from him. That's the reaction I would expect you to have.

[SteveSmith1985]

in reference to your update. That was not him joking. I'm sorry, but bullshit. That's simply an easy 'out' for him to take when he sees that this shit won't fly with you. Seriously. Let this one go.

[coachTanthony]

sounds like a male thot or prostitute to me.

[Asker]

Like they were gap in between us talking, so I was already unsure. If he really wanted to take this serious then we started talking had sex then he disappear because he want money. That’s the order and he has a kid

[Asker]

Money for sex I as woman don’t even ask for that

[coachTanthony]

yeah sounds weird why do you think he wants the money?

[Asker]

He ask 300 for the next time we have sex

[coachTanthony]

Okay but what for? It makes no sense. What do you think it's for? Men don't usually ask for money to have sex.

[Asker]

I believe it’s for a tattoo but we are no in an exclusive relationship and with never even bought things for one another

[coachTanthony]

So when will you be giving him this money?

[Asker]

Lol 😂 never we are not married I never asked him for that type of money nor would I expected

[coachTanthony]

Oh okay good. That is crazy. This a huge red flag that he would ask you for that. I would stay away from him for sure.

[DubiousIntentions]

I mean really, of all the nerve! You are not a prostitute, just a two night stand.

[Danny_dan92]

Weird. You must be dating a male prostitute

[Asker]

Yes he must’ve been

[Danny_dan92]

Uh huh

[slatyb]

Dump him. WTFF?