Do you think I am a creep?

[LonelyAndBig]

Back in November 2021, I drove to Michigan to go on a date with a sweet, Catholic 17 year old girl. Her mom was there with her then-boyfriend. It was a double date.

I was 26 at the time, and I never had a girlfriend (I still never had a real girlfriend before). Things went terrible really quick. She rejected within hours of our date. All I did was hold her hand.

Anyways, I happened to come across her YouTube channel recently and left a response to her video. I noticed the following day, her channel was completely gone. I even looked it up again when I was signed out, and it still was disappeared.

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[SteveSmith1985]

It doesn't sound like you were being a creep. It depends on what you wrote in the comment section. But the whole situation sounds pretty messed-up from the start to be honest. I... feel really badly for you. But this sounds like it was sort of 'destined to be messed up' from the start.

For starters, if you're 26, it seems odd that you would be trying to see a 17 year old. But what's WAY odder still, is that this 17 year old's mother... was there, and was ok with a 26 year old man taking out her 17 year old daughter? That seems... really really odd.

But I'm confused about a lot of what happened here. I don't understand how this girl's boyfriend was there... when you showed up for a date with her. Do you mean the girls' MOTHER"S boyfriend?

How were things left between the two of you when she rejected you after your date? (like was it "fuck off you creep I hope you die"? or "You seem like a really nice guy, but just not the right guy for me. I wish you well have a nice life") In other words, when you left the comment, what was her general view of you in HER mind?

[LonelyAndBig]

It was her mom's boyfriend that was there. It was a double date.
She tried to drop me nicely, but what I thought was shitty was that she didn't even want to be friends.

[SteveSmith1985]

And nobody had an issue with the age difference? That's... really odd to be honest. But what did you say in the youtube comment? (and there hadn't been any contact between the two of you between the date and the youtube comment right?)

[joeldalton]

You're a creep for trying to bang a 17-year-old at 26. That mom is a psycho for allowing it.

[Agape93]

Yeap. Went on a date with a minor and got rejected, then you "came across " her YouTube channel, and decided to bother her there.

Sooo trying to date a minor, cyberstalking and harassment

[DaisyM23]

You, as a 26 year old, went on a double date with a teenager and her mum? And then you left a message on her youtube a year later? Yeah it's creepy

[HateyouxD]

I dont think you're a creep but maybe you startled her. I would take it as disinterest until she reaches out. But dont had your breath on it

[Guy___]

It depends on what you wrote in the comment.

[LonelyAndBig]

I told her I was doing ok and I kinda laughed about our terrible date. Was just checking in.

[Guy___]

If it creeped her out, then yes.