Is it ok to not be mentally ready for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I know I’m not, nor will I ever be.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what you mean by that.

I don't "plan" relationships. I take what people give me and respond accordingly. If the other person gives nothing, they get nothing. If the give a little, they get a little. I'm OK with being alone.

Not sure if this helps answer your question. But I as long as you're a decent human being and know what you're willing to accept and what you're not ( know your boudaries) boundaries. Then that's 90% of the battle.

[FilmGuy93]

If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. It's better to know that you aren't ready than jumping into something unprepared.

[Asker]

I’m absolutely terrified.

[FilmGuy93]

It would probably good to find a way to work passed that trauma in life, but forcing things is never a good idea.

[Asker]

I’m just afraid of not being good enough.

[FilmGuy93]

That sort of mental trap is so self defeating. I hope you can build more self confidence before too much of life passes you by.

[Asker]

Thing is guys have so many preferences that I can’t live up to. It’s really hard.

[FilmGuy93]

being able to work with and be comfortable with what you have is more important than meeting some specific preference.

[Asker]

Truth be told I get major panic attacks thinking about being in a relationship because of the “What ifs” that run through my mind. It’s why I made myself comfortable being single and don’t bother putting myself out there.

[Berethor]

For someone who don't want a relationship you sure talking a lot about a relationship.

[Asker]

But, would it be wise of me to enter one? It would not.

[Berethor]

You 30, so it's now or never, it's not very wise to stay single if you are not a nun.

[Asker]

Would you shut the fuck up about religion crap?

[Asker]

I’m not going to be a nun all because I’m single. I’m not going to be in a relationship either because my mental health isn’t so great. If I die of depression before I hit 60 or earlier, than do be it.

[Asker]

*than so be it

[Berethor]

So you admit that you have a depression because you are lonely?

[Asker]

If I just cave and said you’re right, would that make you happy?

[Berethor]

Maybe, but it's about your happiness, not mine, didn't it? so that's why you depressed?

[Asker]

No, I just think saying you’re right is better than keeping this conversation going.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, it's okay not to be mentally ready for a relationship.

P. S. Don't Be So Hard On Yourself ((( Hugs )))

[loveslongnails]

It's fine not to be in a relationship, and even better if you know that you don't want one. I look it at the same way I do as parenting - it's perfectly ok to not want kids - EVER!

[boggboss]

If your able to adapt to being in one it should be ok

[SamK20]

Of course it's ok. But if you want a relationship one day then declaring that you'll never be prepared mentally is self defeating.

[Juxtapose]

If you look attractive and are fun to be around then guys will flock to you.

[dowser19]

Tbh, today, I'm pretty positive that's a good thing.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It is, just don't go in a relationship.