How do you let your feelings subside from being lovebombed?

[akire420]

Lovebombed? in the relationship for so many years it's just he's always far away. still seeing each other but will meet again after so long. He said he's not the type of guy who's vocal with his feelings he just takes action. He proved it in his way but can't help if this is part of being love bombed. Afraid to get hooked in a never-ending cycle without an endpoint. I just can't make him say anything. All he says is he's going to make an effort and tell me when he has the right words to say. All I needed was assurance but instead, he embraced me and told me I wouldn't be here if I don't care. I'm not sure what this means.

[Guy13]

You need words of assurance but you are seeking this from a man who expresses his love through his works and service to you. And yet, still a man different from many of the modern men with his point of view.

Have you ever taught a man to bring you flowers? You can do the same with him sharing: I was taught Flowers... short version: They showed up at her house in a vase. Week later we were together and found ourselves at the Whole Foods buffet eating. She meandered over to the flowers, walked through, looked up at me with soft eyes, and then we ate... That Thursday the vase was emptied... she filled it Friday evening and that was a desert weekend. I marked on my calendar 1 out 10, 2 out of 10, 3 out of 10 days for each month.

Can you start him small: "Your eyes are bright today, Name"... repeat back to me please, his name... Can that be tried? little by little and love bomb him back in his way whatever that is? Thinking out loud !!

[akire420]

Awesome thanks for sharing your thoughts. I just feel most of the time it is conditional to preferences. He has issues with speaking out for himself and yet he drops the "L" word. So when I ask more about how he feels he only says I'm a man of a few words. It's kinda frustrating.

[Guy13]

He may have not received good feedback and 50,000 interrogating questions plus side comments in the past. Push a little and no critical review but reward him in his way of love when he attempts... touching, I imagine?