Ever since I’ve been getting massages from my massage therapist, I caught feelings for her. I work so hard so I always wanted a girl to massage me. I would go to a guy massage therapist, but I think that would be too weird for me… Anyways, she had contracts when I first signed up for her, basically saying to not touch her. I guess guys, or even women, have tried doing that to her in the past… So I felt bad for her. And even more now because now I caught feelings for her. I don’t want to like her, but I do😭. I feel like a monster. It doesn’t help that she kept accidentally touching her boobs on my hand a few times and then squeezing her chest on my head multiple times. And I feel like holding her hand when she massages my hand. I think she has a boyfriend, so I don’t know what to think? She also calls me “hun,” and she flirts with me sometimes. But I workout, then shower for her before I see her, put on best cologne for her, and I even take care of my feet for her (I learned how to give myself pedicures, just for smooth feet), and make sure my skin is soft too.
How do you stop having feelings for someone?
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Woah dude, this sounds like a tricky situation. A few things to keep in mind:
- She's your massage therapist, so there are clear professional boundaries that can't be crossed. It's her job to provide care for clients.
- Even if she flirts a little, she likely does that with other clients too just to make them feel comfortable. Don't read too much into it.
- Taking extra special care of yourself for her isn't healthy - you deserve to feel good about yourself without needing her approval.
The best thing is to gradually distance yourself to get over these feelings. Things like reducing how often you see her, limiting personal chats, and finding other relationships/activities to focus on outside of sessions.
It's totally normal to develop feelings in that situation, but you don't wanna cross lines or make her job weird. Just try seeing her more professionally over time as your heart heals. You'll meet someone else when the time is right!
For now, be gently kind to yourself - feelings happen. But protect both your hearts by maintaining proper barriers. You've got this man.
So I’m not a masseuse but I do wax professionally and work for a spa which includes many male clients. Having worked in this environment, I urge you please do not express romantic interest. For us, there’s no intimacy to these jobs you’re required to be hands on with men in such close proximity, usually a private room, this isn’t personal. Not only is it awkward when men express feelings but uncomfortable to think during our sessions your aroused by our touch, I’ve seen men get boners from male Brazilians. You are not some totally different man, just because she makes light conversation doesn’t mean interest. Just don’t say anything to her about it, Maybe even go to someone else.