Is there any way to stop having feelings for women? give up on love/women?

[Anonymous]

Hi,
I Hope you guys don't judge me.
I am 30 years old guy, who have never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend. i have been shy all the time and have never asked a girl out. when i see a girl i just seem just uninterested like i don't want anyone in my life but it is not true.
I am not saying i am not confident but I have no social skills, i am an introvert person, and i don't go out.
I don't think that love is timeless but we say it is not and i find my better half in the future which is not so easy, i have to train to speak to women, asked them out, hear "NO" every day until i find someone and who knows it maybe takes 10 years and i will be 40 then, but then i know i will always think about what i have missed these years, and it causes jealousy that thinking she is my first love but i am her second-third-forth... it just hurts
Now i wanna just give up on love and women, i think to give up hurts less than that.

Need help!

[Secure1993]

First of all is normal. nothing to judge. There is no certain or specific time for dating. Iife itself is not fair and is better that way if life was to be fair then we would'nt need each other as we
Would all be doctors, all officers and etc so if you re new to the system doesn't mean you will get someone who is new to th system as wel. People become step parents everyday without asking for it If this woman is ur better half as you say then i do not get the jealous thing.
Concentrate on whats now and whats tommorrw not what was yesterday. Life happens it hapoens to both of us stop wasting time dwelling on what you could have done and do what you wanted to do now. Be happy

[Asker]

that is the problem, i see people at my age have family/children or single parent, have had boyfriend/girlfriend many sexual partner but what about me, i have not even touch a woman, of course man will be jealous, i don't say that she must be a virgin but..
I respect single mom but i can't be with them, they have child and i haven't had sex for once, it is just unfair.
as you say life is unfair, i haven't had a good childhood even :( it is better to be an asexual, but don't know how.

[Secure1993]

You have to find peace with yourself and accept reality. You should have seeked help before then waiting now. If you are looking for virgins or non-mothers then you have to be asking every girl you meet if shs a mam or not a virgins which will make you look disrespectful and an outcast even more. Embrace life you can still play with waters is not too late there are women out there who woulf not mind a one night stand abuse sex as you want to fill the years you have wasted but my question is, is that really worth it, do you think it will make you happy? Accept yr fate and continue living. Feel cute and handsome specially be kind and gentle then walm towards an attractive good looking woman and offer your help where you think she's stack and walk slowly to her heart. Is never hard to get a women's attention all you have to do is be a gentleman and a sweet respective talker. One thing that turns me off is a stranger that walks towards me , great me and ask for my contact details that just turn me off. I would prefer a stranger coming towards me great me stratch his hands and help me, invite me for some bite then mybe he can ask my contact details.

[Asker]

it is not about one night stand and abuse sex, it is about finding love, and if one night stand is abuse why most people do that? and love it? those who not mind a one night stand have 100% done it before, and know how it is, and after many night they just nooooo it is not so good, it is just one night.
And i haven't said she have to be a virgin, and if it is, it is not a double standard cuz i haven't had sex. what about single mom is they have made wrong decision in life, the single mom haven't give a shit about me, and did not even talk to me when she was younger, why should we accept her love now? single moms have to find a single dad, most men now-days will not raise others children that is. and there is time for everything a human being live 60 years on average, i know i dont find until iam 45-50 years old, and that makes no sense to find love in your last 10 years, no thank you i don't want it.

[Secure1993]

Love comes naturally dear. I know your heart is damaged how do I know? The tone of your response. Really you got to let go and find peace with yourself
You are busy wasting your time and like you said life is too short. No body reads the heart of another oe else they wouldn't be any single mam above all the world will be clear of errors. Love doesn't chose and there are a lot of men out there falling for mothers. You need to surrender and let go of your hate and rage and blame story. Single mam's do not look for fathers for their children they look for a genuine loving and understanding heart and when you love someone you accept who they are and what they have the same applies to single dads. I am not asking you to go look for a single mam or look for a woman all i am asking for is you forgive yrslf and let go once you are at peace with everyone and specially yourslf you will start to think and see thinks clearly. They say happy girls arr the cutest I would say a happy man who is at peace is a cute man aswel.

[luvstoned4him]

I dont want you to give up on love or women - that would make you gay

Think of all other things that you couldve given up on - Jobs, Health, Life? but you haven't, you are still here and every day that you are breathing is the day that "IT" could happen.

I was soo depressed when i couldnt get a job. then out of the blue one pops up but I turned it down because the conditions were not favorable. Still I am glad that it happened and that I didn't entirely lose all hope. I think when you lose hope that when you really fail and there ain't no coming back from whatever dark hole you sunk in.

[Asker]

but honestly it has affected my life, health, i can't study. do you know any way to not think about women at all?

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker not women but i gather this particular woman has hurt u somehow. You need to move on or at least distract yourself till the bad feelings past. Maybe take up a course or hobby to pass the time by. Something that you enjoy. That way you become more focus on it, you actually enjoy it and life seems much better.

[Anonymous]

Keep yourself busy you are working against biology so it will be hard

[Asker]

how? i can't focus on thing,

[moviedude714]

Nature is cruel because it's impossible to remove these feelings

[Asker]

that was not a good news. i have to try to be a gay though :( much better than straight

[Aphrodite8789]

Get on online dating

[Asker]

it doesn't work, i have only facebook, sometime i add a girl on facebook wait 1-2 days and cancel the request if i don't get any answer then.
i'm not a photogenic, i mean i see myself as an average person but seem below average at photos, but i see girls look at me when i'm outside, i don't know if i seem creepy or just ugly, though i hear a lot from friend/family that i'm a handsome guy, i dunno :/
do you girls ever ask guys out, if not it bothers me when they only check me out.

[Aphrodite8789]

Yeah Facebook isn’t online dating, and a lot of us will approach a guy