
How do I stop catching feelings for a guy TOO fast?


There’s nothing wrong with falling for someone quick, your problem is your obviously choosing the wrong guys and not even assessing properly or listening to if they are ready for a relationship. Just chill and be happy and be more selective with who you chat to, don’t need to fall for the first nice guy that pays you attention.
Guys have told me they loved me on a first date. I don’t think if a guy tells you that within your first interaction it’s genuine at all. Problem is, I fell for it.
Limit how you text him make him come after u. Do not be annoying to run him away. Limit how much time u respond even if you want to trust me stay busy.. stay the chase
You are right that some guys know just what to say and when to say it. I had a friend that was just a player. He was always getting the girl, but he also tended to use them as well. So, it was over soon, but there was always another.
I know deep down they are using me but my emotions blur my vision and put me into situations that aren’t healthy for me. I’m like the perfect target for players because I could fall in love with a guy in one day if he just presents himself well to me. How do I stop falling for everything so easily? It’s emotionally exhausting and overwhelming.
Well, you have to be skeptical. Take it down a notch and watch for the warnings signs. It’s kind of like cat fishing. If it is too good to be true, then it usually is.
I admit my friend was very charming. He was often the wittiest of my group of friends. He could have been a great guy if he just would have treated women with respect and kindness. I guess if you can get away with it, you will.
How do I “take it down a notch?”
I mean to just take it slow or at least slow down. Make him work for it. Keep him guessing. Don’t fall to quickly. If it is worth it to him, then he will continue to pursue you. He shouldn’t get all he wants, not now. Anyway, what he should want is the experience of getting to know you as a person. That should be enough for right now. Of course, there is nothing wrong with some affection as it progresses between you. Just be careful of the player wanting it too quickly. Good luck.
Wait for mariage to have sex. A man with a brain can't go through that pain just for sex
I’m a virgin and I really would LOVE to hold on to that until marriage. However, it is so hard to find guys that would be willing to do so as well.
It's definetely not easy as sex has become a common thing to do but in religious community they are easier to fine
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I'm sorry. I've done this before myself, but I was a determined and desperate virgin at that time and so it became a deliberate action to change that. And I made every effort, at any cost, to achieve that goal. And I did.
I didn't even think about what came after at all.
How did you overcome this problem? Any tips?
Actually I haven't. I've been celibate ever since. I worry about hurting people and generally feel unable to love so I avoid messing with other people's feelings now.
You feel unable to love anyone?
Yeah that's right. I objectify people. I don't know how to love anyone.
Why not?
I don't know. I guess I've never really done it before, and I grew up in an unloving family.
Feelings of closeness give me anxiety and make me uncomfortable.
Take a deep breath. Let me ask u a few things ok you care about people do you see and feel things deeper than most can you feel people's hurt and pain there enjoyment u read people pretty good I think u do and I think you don't under stand it yet but I would say ur gifted or an Empath I have more question if u want send me a message
Gifted lol?
I feel like I'm the guy counter part of you I fall too easily for girls with beautiful smiles. What I learned to do is retreating back to my safe place and focus on things I like to do
I think it's as simple as realizing that things might not be as good as you anticipating.
Problem is I DON’T realize that and even if I do when I’m happy with someone I just don’t care about that. I’m so caught up in the moment.
That’s what I’m saying... any advice?
Yo I literally have the same problem and I’m a guy, I swear yo it’ll to someone and next day they act like you don’t exist
Ask your friends what they think before getting emotionally involved. Usually they can tell if a guy has bad intentions before you do. Hopefully you can develop a warning system in time.
I don’t have friends that I’m close to that way. I move around a lot and I’m pretty much alone now. I think that’s what bad guys look for - lonely girls with bad home lives.
By not being honest to yourself. If you are being honest in a relationship, you will fall for them easily and you will get hurt easily.
What?
If you are honest with someone, you will fall for them
Find the one u want an don't let go
Been there done that. Problem is the one I want doesn’t give 2 shits about me.
You gotta restrain yourself
I know that. The question is how lol?
Its not something that can be taught, you gotta figure it out on your own and learn how to.
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