I think that this is primarily a female problem and it is one that I ESPECIALLY struggle with to the point that I feel that I have lost control over my emotions. Guys can be really sweet, manipulative, smart, and just know everything right to say to make a girl go head over heels for them. I emotionally invest myself TOO quickly and catch feels for people that likely are not even interested in having a committed relationship with me. Guys that are simply interested in receiving sexual favours or flirting and wasting time with me even have the capacity to hold my heart. And I hate that. I hate being so vulnerable. I know that if my feelings are this intense within days of meeting someone, then the heartbreak will be more than I can handle. I don’t want to keep loving people that don’t feel the same about me. Can anyone give me advice?
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I feel so bad and stupid and I’ve been absolutely heartbroken recently. God I don’t ever want to talk to anyone again.
How do I stop catching feelings for a guy TOO fast?
There’s nothing wrong with falling for someone quick, your problem is your obviously choosing the wrong guys and not even assessing properly or listening to if they are ready for a relationship. Just chill and be happy and be more selective with who you chat to, don’t need to fall for the first nice guy that pays you attention.
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Guys have told me they loved me on a first date. I don’t think if a guy tells you that within your first interaction it’s genuine at all. Problem is, I fell for it.
Limit how you text him make him come after u. Do not be annoying to run him away. Limit how much time u respond even if you want to trust me stay busy.. stay the chase
You are right that some guys know just what to say and when to say it. I had a friend that was just a player. He was always getting the girl, but he also tended to use them as well. So, it was over soon, but there was always another.
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I know deep down they are using me but my emotions blur my vision and put me into situations that aren’t healthy for me. I’m like the perfect target for players because I could fall in love with a guy in one day if he just presents himself well to me. How do I stop falling for everything so easily? It’s emotionally exhausting and overwhelming.
Well, you have to be skeptical. Take it down a notch and watch for the warnings signs. It’s kind of like cat fishing. If it is too good to be true, then it usually is.
I admit my friend was very charming. He was often the wittiest of my group of friends. He could have been a great guy if he just would have treated women with respect and kindness. I guess if you can get away with it, you will.
I mean to just take it slow or at least slow down. Make him work for it. Keep him guessing. Don’t fall to quickly. If it is worth it to him, then he will continue to pursue you. He shouldn’t get all he wants, not now. Anyway, what he should want is the experience of getting to know you as a person. That should be enough for right now. Of course, there is nothing wrong with some affection as it progresses between you. Just be careful of the player wanting it too quickly. Good luck.
I'm sorry. I've done this before myself, but I was a determined and desperate virgin at that time and so it became a deliberate action to change that. And I made every effort, at any cost, to achieve that goal. And I did.
Actually I haven't. I've been celibate ever since. I worry about hurting people and generally feel unable to love so I avoid messing with other people's feelings now.
Take a deep breath. Let me ask u a few things ok you care about people do you see and feel things deeper than most can you feel people's hurt and pain there enjoyment u read people pretty good I think u do and I think you don't under stand it yet but I would say ur gifted or an Empath I have more question if u want send me a message
I feel like I'm the guy counter part of you I fall too easily for girls with beautiful smiles. What I learned to do is retreating back to my safe place and focus on things I like to do
Ask your friends what they think before getting emotionally involved. Usually they can tell if a guy has bad intentions before you do. Hopefully you can develop a warning system in time.
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I don’t have friends that I’m close to that way. I move around a lot and I’m pretty much alone now. I think that’s what bad guys look for - lonely girls with bad home lives.
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