How do you know if he’s just using you or actually want a committed relationship with you?

[Sailormoon95]

Sometimes I can’t tell if he’s into me because he keeps sending me mixed signals. Is he losing interest in me? I have my relationship insecurities it’s not like I don’t.

[Aerissa_Jade]

It can be really hard sometimes, and obvious other times. Some guys are smooth, sweet and everything that we want from them, but they are actually users and playing us.

There is no sure fire way to know, but if he talks about 'your' future together and has plans, that could mean he is into you and not just using you.

If you aren't having sex, then it makes it far easier to see who just wants to use you and who doesn't, if you are that can be more challenging.

Just try to find red flags, that could mean he is using you... often users, are also cheaters.

[Anonymous]

Don't jump into bed on the first or second date and you'll probably discover very quickly if he's interested in you or just wants to pull down your panties.

[Summeroflove]

If he’s sleeping with you or having sex. Many times they’re using you. What is your gut saying?

[Askingtheinternet]

Asking him before dating him what his intentions are. If he lies about them then usually there are signs like him not paying attention to your questions/opinions or giving you a half hearted answer. If you live in a tight net community usually asking about his previous relationships is also a good method.

[spartan55]

What are the mixed signals? What makes you think he is losing interest? How does he know you aren't using him?

[Tracker1958]

Women only use men to get them by until a better man comes along. This goes for all women.

[Anonymous]

Same way he tells that you aren't just using him.