I’m going to keep this short since the last one I tried to right crashed.
Lets call this guy T. I met T through a mutual childhood friend of mine through snapchat. T is a Lance Corporal Marine, Added him. We talked a little bit, life got busy so we didn’t talk for a couple of months. Mid April 2023 comes around and we started doing snap streaks, he started saying things like “so Beautiful” “you’re so gorgeous” etc. We would talk 24/7/365 if he had time because of timezones since he is in Okinawa, Japan. We started to get know each-other more, let’s just say he fell in love me with too early or too fast, he starts dropping the “I adore you” or “I love you” bombs on me. I didn’t know how to react to this at the time so I said it to him back, which I realized was wrong. I told him that I wasn’t ready for a relationship days later as I just want to focus on myself and college, which he understood but asked if we could continue talking and I said “yes”. Continuing on into May he started to talk about the future like marriage and sex etc, he also sent me a gift which took almost a month to come but it was just a cat plushie pillow he got from Amazon. I never received a gift from a guy before so it gave me butterflies. He also thought about buying a ring and that’s when I said it was too fast. He also told his sister about me which his sister told me about to her mom and now they’re following me on instagram. Now its June 6th and he started to become dry and I started to feel overwhelmed by the constant “I love you” bombs and I asked if we could slow down and he said “Ok”. We barely talk now.
I also feel like he doesn’t care about me anymore or just using me. I started to loose feelings for him because it got dry and all he replies with now is “Meh” “Hm?” “Ok” or a “:)”. I don’t know what I should do?
Lets call this guy T. I met T through a mutual childhood friend of mine through snapchat. T is a Lance Corporal Marine, Added him. We talked a little bit, life got busy so we didn’t talk for a couple of months. Mid April 2023 comes around and we started doing snap streaks, he started saying things like “so Beautiful” “you’re so gorgeous” etc. We would talk 24/7/365 if he had time because of timezones since he is in Okinawa, Japan. We started to get know each-other more, let’s just say he fell in love me with too early or too fast, he starts dropping the “I adore you” or “I love you” bombs on me. I didn’t know how to react to this at the time so I said it to him back, which I realized was wrong. I told him that I wasn’t ready for a relationship days later as I just want to focus on myself and college, which he understood but asked if we could continue talking and I said “yes”. Continuing on into May he started to talk about the future like marriage and sex etc, he also sent me a gift which took almost a month to come but it was just a cat plushie pillow he got from Amazon. I never received a gift from a guy before so it gave me butterflies. He also thought about buying a ring and that’s when I said it was too fast. He also told his sister about me which his sister told me about to her mom and now they’re following me on instagram. Now its June 6th and he started to become dry and I started to feel overwhelmed by the constant “I love you” bombs and I asked if we could slow down and he said “Ok”. We barely talk now.
I also feel like he doesn’t care about me anymore or just using me. I started to loose feelings for him because it got dry and all he replies with now is “Meh” “Hm?” “Ok” or a “:)”. I don’t know what I should do?
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I don't know what it is about servicemen and moving at the speed of light with women, but I stay far away from them for reasons like you’ve mentioned. It’s a huge red flag for him to love bomb, and an even bigger one when you ask to slow down and not only does he treat it as rejection but becomes cold altogether.
In this situation I think you’d be better off as friends. You don’t need to be pressured or woo’d into married life, because there’s been no time to build a real connection that isn’t just the flowery honeymoon phase. If not matching his fast pace is a dealbreaker for him then make it one for yourself too.
Okay thank you! I’m still new to this whole dating thing I mean I’ve only been in one relationship and it only lasted 10 months like 3 years ago (high school days) I’m just taking my time and just waiting on the right person whilst figuring out what I want to do in my life. ☺️
No problem! Glad to hear you’re taking your time, I hope you kick him to the curb, you deserve a better candidate.
If sex is all he ever talks about or wants to engage in, then yes, he is using u.