Do you think the bullies are more likely to be successful in the dating world?

[Anonymous]

Im talking about the bullies that bully kids in school/high school. People think they'll end up having a shitty life later on but they actually end up successful and are thriving in the dating world. And the victims tend to struggle and aren't that successful. Basically bullies are rewarded for stepping on other people

[Qdbrown]

Bullies are just people who know who to pick on and take advantage of. So they might look successful, but they would be the ones picking off all the weaker people, especially the insecure who are not tied in with a strong group of friends.

As bullies age, they either go to prison, or chill out. After they have no one, as bad people are generally avoided, and most people grow up to realize who they are dealing with.

That said, there will be some bullies that will become narcissistic and exciting people to keep a group of friends to prey around, or use their perception of being popular as a tool to attack others later on.

As a young guy, you might admire how they bed young women early on, as they will be cocky starting out. But as everyone older can agree, it's fun to fantasize about, but there is no glory going around to a large group of strangers to have sex with. It gets old at somepoint. Especially if you run across an STD every now and then.

[MCheetah]

Yeah, it seems likely. Both the mean girls and the violent male bullies.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Bullies I know are in prison, not sure how that is more successful.

Don't confuse aggressive bullies with assertive bullies. Assertive are those that annoy the crap out of you by asking you endlessly to do something. They often make decent bosses though, aggressive ones will use any means to get what they want, including violence.

Bullying for me though is mostly online, as physical bullying would of got people kicked out of school, or police called on them.

What gets me about them, is they forget who they bullied but their victims remember forever, and then later on in life they try to be friends like they never did anything wrong and don't even remember being bullies.

[Asker]

Its just that its not like the movies where the nerdy guy gets a girl in the end who loves him for him. In real life its the other way around and the bully gets rewarded. And a lot of women see bullies bullying yet they dont care and still find the bullies attractive. Its the Matthew effect

[Aerissa_Jade]

I've broken up with the jerks that want to beat up everyone that looks at me, I hate that... dated one guy who if another guy looked at me or flirted with me, he'd go beat them up and my boyfriend could win every fight.

I had enough of that, figured if he was doing that to other guys, it wouldn't be too long before he got violent with me.

[Asker]

Good for you. a lot of other women unfortunately aren't like that

[Sorrento-Sun]

Yes. They'll probably bully their way to success. They won't care who they hurt to get on in life. While their victims are emotionally and mentally scared fir life from the abuse the bully put them through.

I despise bullies. When I was a kid I used to fight with the school bullies, because I always defended the people they were bullying if they couldn't stand up for themselves. I could never turn a blind eye if I saw someone being bullied. It's instinctive for me to react to bullying tactics. I've even stood up for people in work if they wee bring bullied or ostracised

[Guy13]

Assertive people are more successful in the dating world. They are not afraid to know they are good at shit nor self-market. "Bullies" or authoritarians are usually self-destructive, loud, and all ot "that" which goes with being insecure.

[Haha456]

Something I've learned over many years of experience:

the bullies, narcissists, bad hearted , most problematic people on earth tend to be POPULAR and CHARISMATIC , gregarious, have many friends buzzing around them.

You can trust me on this. I've had many years of experience dealing with terrible people. They tend to be popular. Now, I'm not saying that every popular, gregarious person is a shitbag. But you're most likely to find bad people in the popular rather than unpopular groups.

[Asker]

Finally! Someome that's not being politically correct about this

[Haha456]

@Asker

the difference between teenage bullies and adult bullies is that adult bullies tend to do it in secret while teenage bullies do it in public.

[Anemone978]

My bullies are probably doing fine in life... My one major bully I know he is in construction because I seen him once when I was in my early 20's and he smiled at me. The other ones were from middle class homes so I bet they are fine too..
After elementary school, the people who bullied me would usually became friends later on when they got to know me, so all good lol

[Anemone978]

They didn't seem to have problems in dating lol

[VVVeronica]

I'm sorry, it sounds like bullying was a problem for you. As it sounds like most were male, why didn't you just kick their nuts?

[Anemone978]

@VVVeronica I don't know never thought to kick them there...
In high school I just had to make them laugh and most would become my friends, the ones who didn't I would get my older sister and her friends to threaten them and they would leave me alone, and some random ones I would push down stairs and stuff so they'd know I will kill you bro, so watch yourself LOL < even the two I pushed down the stairs became my friend they would always say im crazy but they were nice xD

[VVVeronica]

Wow, pushing down the stairs is even worse haha, no wonder they learned their lesson!

[Anemone978]

@VVVeronica Lmao yeah it was pretty dangerous I don't recommend xD

[Curmudgeon]

Sadly, all too often yes. However, I know many cases where the nerdy made their money and had the best form of revenge, namely, living well above them.

[rienna888]

Not really, the bullies all disappeared out of sight and I don’t know how they’re doing. I don’t even think they’re in a relationship from what I recall

[Asker]

If they're not successful its because they did something to not be successful but bullying wasn't the reason. Often times it's drug addiction or commiting crimes thats their downfall. But its not bullying that leads to their downfall

[rienna888]

Yeah but all the bullies I know didn’t amount to much. My friend from another school also said the ones that bullied her aren’t doing great.

[Asker]

They probably did something to be in the situation they're in

[slatyb]

No, I don't. They may have some success with women with so little self-esteem that they are thrilled to get any attention. They won't be attractive to emotionally healthy women.

[zagor]

Not true. The people I knew who were bullies did not end up successful. Most ended up with pretty bland lives.

[Asker]

The only time bullies will fail is if they have an addition problem later on. Other than that most who are clean and away from crime and drugs do pretty well

[zagor]

No, most of the people I went to school with who are successful were the quiet studious type. Bullies ended up working in day labor. People who don't get along with others don't tend to do well.

[Asker]

I dont man. Ask wealthy business owner that are selfish assholes. They're doing pretty well

[zagor]

Yes but they generally aren't the types who were school bullies. Bill Gates was kind of a dick as a boss in his early days at MS, as even he admits, but I doubt he was a Jr. High bully.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, ultimately it comes to bite them in the ass.

[Anonymous]

Yes.