Don't you agree the,"confidence," advice people give ugly men when it comes to dating and hookups, is bull?

[Anonymous]

Most women will not get romantically and sexually involved with a man they think they think is ugly, REGARDLESS how confident he is. FACT. I am tired of people talking about out of their ass and saying things they know won't help ugly guys at all, when it comes to dating and hookups. Give them advice on dating and hookups that actually help.

[Effably]

Not at all. I agree that it is very poorly phrased but the core of that piece of advice is excellent.

Got too big of a tummy? If you are comfortable with it and still feel attractive in yourself that will end up described as cozy, comfortable, real dad-bod vibes you know? Instead of a simple fat.

Lacking hair? Same thing. If it bothers you it will be first on the list but if it doesn't people also will not see it as as big a deal.

Even if you're awkward socially as long as you act confident - that is you put yourself out there and try your best with a smile - it will normally come across as endearing.

I fully agree the advice is cliche and often not helpful unless out into context but it is ultimately good advice.

[TommyMountainFigure]

What advice would you LIKE to receive then? A defeatist attitude won't get you anywhere with women I can promise you that.

[Asker]

Advice that works. Most women will not get romantically and sexually involved with a man they think is ugly regardless how confident he is, so the confidence advice for dating and hookups, doesn't make sense.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Things like dressing smart, smelling nice, getting your hair done all adds to your confidence. and those are the things women look at just as much as features.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure and women will still not get romantically or sexually involved with him, despite those things you listed, if they think his FACE is ugly.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure he can dress in whatever way, and all those things you listed, but if they think his face is ugly, most of them will not get romantically or sexually involved with him. Dressing nice, etc doesn't make the face stop being ugly

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm nothing to write home about, but it's never stopped me from dating hot women. Which begs the question, what am I doing differently?

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure probably wealthy or a celebrity or both and those women were using you for money, clout or both. Or were hoping to get money or clout from you.

[Asker]

Or you have a big penis and women were using you for that

[TommyMountainFigure]

I honestly don't know what more i can say to help you. It's not because I don't want to. I really would like to. The trouble is, we disagree on looks being the be all and all in finding someone.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure lol those women were using you for money, clout, or a big penis and yet you were bragging about dating a hot woman when they were using you. Lol yeah man you are the shit when a woman was using you.(sarcasm)

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure if a hot woman dates you without using you than you can be telling me, but telling me how you dated hot women when they were using you is dumb

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure you bragging about dating hot women when they were using you, is as dumb as a guy bragging about getting laid, when all the women he screwed were hookers.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I believe if you learn not to take yourself so seriously but do all the things I suggested, you will have better luck in attracting women. You doubt me. I get it.. SO will you do an experiment for me to see if I'm right? Would you ask this question word for word in GAG. "Ladies, I am an ugly bastard and I am looking for love.. What am I doing wrong?"
I am willing to bet you that you get more responses from women by asking that then you have ever had in your life.. If you don't I will accept I was wrong.. Care to take the challenge?

[TommyMountainFigure]

You can insult or guess all you like. I've never been used by anyone since I was 19 years old. and anyway this isn't about me.. I'm giving up my time to help you.. so. are you willing to try or are you happy being miserable?

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure why would I take advice from you when the hot women you dated, only dated you because they used you or tried to use you? If they dated you, without using you, than you can give advice.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I didn't say they used me.. You just assumed they did.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure well you never answered earlier if they used you or wanted to use you, so I assumed I was telling the truth that they used you or wanted to use you.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Do you honestly think I would be sharing advice if it wasn't any good? Mate when i said I was trying to help.. I wasn't lying.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Trying to help people is the reason I come on here. I take no pleasure from seeing people hurting.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure what reasons did those hot women date you?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Because I made them laugh, got on well with them. took the time to find out about their lives, their friends. what they liked, I generally take an interest in people. I see the good in them.

[Asker]

@and you are positive they didn't use to you or try to use you for money, big dick, your home, clout, fame, visas, a job, or anything else?

[TommyMountainFigure]

I give people one chance in life to make a mistake.. if they make it, I will forgive usually, but nobody gets a second.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure are you saying you wouldn't let yourself get used?

[Asker]

Have any of those hot women use you?

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't have a problem being me. I like who I see when I look in the mirror. We are trying to help you.. if you want me to that is.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Well you can't say i didn't try

[Asker]

I read what you are saying but I am asking you if any of those hot women you dated used you? I just want to know. It is a simple question man. You answered other things but not that. Can you please tell me?

[Asker]

It is a simple question. I am curious. Can you answer that simple question please?

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure I read everything you said. I just want you to answer the simple question that I asked man

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure I read everything you are saying and you answered everything. You just haven't answered if any of those hot women used you or not.

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure why are you scared to tell me?

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure really weird how you are so scared to answer a simple question. It is either a simple yes or no, to my question,"Have any of the hot girls that you dates used you?" You refusing to answer all this time, shows that at least one of those hot girls that you dated used you. That is proof right there

[Asker]

@tommymountainfigure we have Mr playa here who is talking about he dated hot girls, yet got used by one, some, or all of them.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't agree with that assessment at all! lol I think that being confident is fantastic advice for people of all appearances.

[SClassWizzard]

Of course it is, women are still always gonna be into looks and or material

[BarryLiverstone]

I think your next question will be about this topic and you really are not asking for advice

[Ryfyle]

@Steven8000 Maybe you just suck. Have you thought about being interesting?