For a bit of context, we are both 26, in our first relationship, and we met on a hinge in June 2022; we made things official in August, and things are going great for us.
Last month my boyfriend and I began having sleepovers at his home; he lives alone and bought his home a year ago. Our first sleepover lasted a day, so his family invited me to spend Christmas with them; our next sleepover lasted four days, and we recently had another sleepover over the new years weekend, and he has welcomed me to have more sleepovers as well and that I can leave some of my stuff at his home.
With that being said, both of his parents aren't too happy about that; lol his dad demanded that he slept on the couch when I stayed over at his home, so he assured him he would do so, while his mom knows that we are sleeping together but sure doesn't want him having me over every weekend or so.
So now I'm a bit confused as we are both 26, and so forth, so we are moving forward in exploring things safely, and the fact his parents are thinking about us doing stuff lol is a bit weird.
Anyways do parents usually think about this stuff?
You asked if this is normal. The answer is that often yes it is normal. I know of a lot of families who don't want their kids having sex of any sort until they are married, regardless of whether or not the child is an adult and/or still living at home.
In answer to your question about whether parents think about this stuff, the answer is yes in context. Typically, in any society, a man and a woman sharing a bed means they're having sex. So, whenever that happens, the parents will think those people are having sex. That's what happened (correctly) when you slept at his parents' house. But also no, as a parent, I'm not just sitting around thinking of my kids having sex.
None of this means I agree with his parents. I think it's absurd to expect adults to not be intimate. However, that's their opinion and I respect it. And when you're in their house, it just makes sense to not cause drama.
Thanks for the insight!! However we were staying at his own home, he lives alone and bought the house a year ago.
Oh damn! Well blah. That's a horse of a different color. Hmmmmmm. Still normal for the parents to have some weird expectation but way not normal if your boyfriend is acquiescing in his own house. Bizzare.