Most of the time, I feel like I can't be myself around my boyfriend... I don't know if this is normal or not. I mean, what are the signs thatI can't be myself around someone, especially if it is my boyfriend?
It's not uncommon to feel like you can't be yourself around your boyfriend, especially in the early stages of a relationship. This can happen for a variety of reasons, such as fear of rejection, fear of being judged, or simply feeling like you need to put on a certain persona to impress or please your partner.
Some signs that you may not be able to be yourself around your boyfriend include:
1. You feel like you have to hide parts of yourself or your personality in order to avoid conflict or disapproval.
2. You feel like you have to constantly monitor what you say or do around your boyfriend in order to avoid upsetting him or causing problems.
3. You feel like you are not able to express your true thoughts, feelings, or opinions around your boyfriend.
4. You feel like you are not able to relax and be yourself when you are around your boyfriend.
If you are experiencing these feelings, it's important to communicate with your boyfriend and try to work through any issues that may be causing you to feel this way. A healthy relationship should be based on mutual respect, trust, and acceptance of each other's true selves. It may also be helpful to speak with a therapist or counselor to gain greater insight into your feelings and work on developing a more authentic sense of self.
It's not unusual for some people to find it difficult to be themselves in a romantic relationship, especially at first.
This can be for a number of reasons, such as a lack of trust, concern for the other's approval, lack of security in the relationship, or fear of being judged or rejected.
However, it is important to stress that the ability to be authentic and honest with yourself and with others is critical to establishing a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
If you feel like you can't be yourself with your boyfriend, this may be negatively affecting the quality of the relationship and your emotional well-being.
It is important to analyze why you feel that you cannot be authentic in the relationship.
Is there something specific in your relationship that prevents you from being honest and expressing your feelings and opinions? Do you feel that your boyfriend judges or criticizes you when you are yourself? Are you worried that he won't accept you for who you are?
If you are experiencing these concerns, it is important to talk to your partner and address these issues openly and honestly.
Communicating your needs and concerns can help you establish a more authentic and satisfying relationship.
Ultimately, it's critical that you feel comfortable and confident being yourself in the relationship.
He ain’t the one
If I feel uncomfortable than it’s not love rather than pressure to be in a relationship. You are hypnotized into it thinking it’s the right way.
Love = comfortable ! You have to feel that early on.
Imagine me saying I love my boyfriend but I’m not myself around him I hide my thoughts my opinion I feel stiff and uncomfortable … Is this normal to you? Not to me
No, it's not normal to feel like you can't be yourself. And it won't grow into a fruitful relationship if you stay.
My question is, why can't you be yourself around him? Does it irritate him? Are you afraid of losing him? Have you always struggled with being yourself with everyone?
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That depends on if it's typical for you to feel like you can be yourself in a relationship or not.
What has your track record been like there? If your previous relationships are ones where you feel like you can be completely open and express yourself, then it's not normal.
If you had the same pattern of behavior, then that is your norm.
u You mean that you won't allow yourself to relax around him. You need to look inward to answer that question.
If you haven't farted, burped, walked around without makeup, in your ugly old worn out robe while around him then you are still in that I have to be perfect stage.
Just let one rip, blame it on the dog and be done with it.
Everyone poops, pees, farts, whatever, so just join the human race and be yourself.
He just might be thinking that something is wrong with you because you are too perfect, so he will never get to know the real you or be comfortable with you.
So, grab the plunger, go do the daily double in his bathroom and welcome to the human race.
It can take a lot of pressure off of you in more ways than one.
Not normal. He's not right for you (and probably not for anyone). Your primary relationship should be a safe place, where you feel completely accepted. If it's not, then you would be better off single.
It takes me time to be ‘me’ in front of partners when dating. However, assuming you’ve been together for a while, he can’t be the right person for you if you can’t be you by now.
You should always be yourself. Throughout life it is better to be hated for who you are than liked for who you are not.
If you feel you can not be yourself around anyone in your social life, you need to get away from them. That is a toxic environment.
You would have to describe what your “normal” is like if you hope to get any real insight. Until then I’m just gonna assume you’re a serial killer! 🔪😱
And why do you feel that way? Is this a new relationship or one that's been going for a while?
i don't think that's a good sign... my partner is someone who i feel like i can be myself and share any thought that comes into my mind. that's where you should be.
Takes time to be comfortable. You just jumped ship from casual to intimate.
Yes, girl it happens but if you wanna play long i think you should be yourself
He's a guy that meets all your requirements yes it's normal. Had many girlfriends like that to. Don't be embarrassed it's a good thing 😉😏
I think what you mean is, you feel inadequate around him? Or judged?
Maybe you are gorgeous but you're inadequate in things like conversation? Or socialising?
Why can't you be yourself? Do you know what the reason is?
Don't know but its not a good foundation for a relationship
are you afraid of the way he might react if you were yourself?
Not if you've been together a while. "Not being yourself" is very vague but if it literally means you can't be comfortable then it's not meant to be
So you try to be all nice and fake around him to impress him?
No, it's not.
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