For a bit of context, we are both 26, in our first relationship, and we met on hinge in June 2022; we made things official in August, and things are going great for us. My boyfriend is also adopted and mentioned this to me on our second date, and his parents are very much old-school Catholics.
I first met his mom in October 2022 during one of his recreational hockey games, and we chatted a bit. At this time, I also met his brother, and during that first meeting, I felt as if they were a bit apprehensive of me, and my boyfriend was quite annoyed at his mom, for the manner she had introduced herself and so forth.
The second time I saw his mom was during another of his recreational hockey games back in December and this time she was a bit more friendly; we chatted, and she even shared her blanket with me as I was a bit cold.
They had kindly invited me over to their home for Christmas this past holiday season, so I attended their brunch and dinner. During this time, I noticed the dynamic lol between his parents, as they seemed to argue back and forth, his dad called a woman on tv stupid as she had placed her shoes in a bathtub on an HGTV show, and then his dad was telling his mom, she drove like a woman lol, it was all this weird gender/misogynistic tone the entire time.
So the atmosphere was honestly so weird and then his dad just sat in their second living room watching TV the entire time and didn't really interact. They got me nice Christmas gifts but the vibe was so weird.
Anyhow, we are coming on our six months anniversary, and we are doing fine. Still, these are just weird observations I have made about his family dynamic, and I was wondering if this is usual.
What are your thoughts?
Honestly, this sounds like your usual religious family dynamic. They all have their beliefs, and when you're heavily involved in a religion like Catholicism, you're bound to believe some misogynistic things like women are dumber than men or believe those ridiculous stereotypes. The fact that he's adopted also raises a bit of a red flag for me as I know the adoption community is half people that want to have a kid but can't or won't get pregnant, and half people that are self-righteous and pat themselves on the back for taking unwanted kids into their home. His family undoubtedly has problems and I'm sure his parents would never consider changing their way of thinking so I'd advise keeping to being civil with them as much as possible as you and your boyfriend move forward with your relationship. Keep a reasonable distance from them and you should be fine.
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