How would you react when the person you've been flirting is constantly on his phone and texting someone on a date?
I would send visible but indirect signals that I find this not appropriate, like for example I would stare at him or quit talking with a serious face until he finishes his phone entertainment, then when the date is over I won't give him a second chance for sure, motivating it with this bad business card of minding his phone continuously.
This is a very bad start, not respectful and egocentric, it doesn't speak well about the type of partner he could be: not very responsible, not dedicated, self centered.
Even in case he was not really interested in you, that is not an excuse to not respect the conversation at least, they are two separated things. Otherwise it would mean he respects the time of other people only in case they are attractive. What about males in that case? Not a good presentation at all.
Unless he informed me ahead of the date he was expecting an important text (ie: work related, family issues) that's very rude.
I was raised to give a date... actually anyone I'm directly speaking to or out with, my full attention. If you're on a phone texting or using social media, you can't do that.
So to me, if he's on his phone, he can't focus on me. I'd lose interest real quick.
I’d say something like “so uh, what’s going over there?…… hm, sounds uh, pretty important. Too bad these delectable and VERY crispy fries which I love are going cold. Don’t mind me I’m just gonna take a few as in half. *eats them as she watches with a sort irritated expression* Neglection Tax. If you need any more help eating them just let me know. Anyways, back to the date, finally. So I’m making a movie, a YouTube original. You should watch tot when it premieres. Or else you’ll wish you died in your childhood”
Simply finish after one drink and excuse myself. No need to address it. 90% of people are addicted to their phone including me but if you can't exercise discretion on a date then you in a world of hurt.
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Go and find out what he is really like and if he is rude enough to continue in his phone while on the date.
If its the second date and the vibe is more chill it would be okay especially if its like a dive bar. it depends on the setting. if he texted during dinner or a cocktail bar (more nicer and intimate) I would call him out on it.
I recently went on my second date with a guy and brought my dog with me and we went to a dive bar and he was texting his buddy about a football game and I texted my friends too. so we both were texting but it was very on and off NOT the whole time. It was a chill vibe. He also texted on of his friends to see if they got home safely. And we both basically showed each other who were texting lol
But on our FIRST date all eyes and ears were on me and our phones were in our pockets and we went to a beautiful cocktail bar.
Being on your phone while on a date isn't appropriate. Only time you can is if it's an important call or text. Other than that, it must be put away. I probably wouldn't go on a second date with the person if that's what they did our entire date (which probably isn't a date at all once you think about it).
Well first you would have to see who he is texting if it’s not important then have him set his phone down and engage in conversation. If it’s a medical emergency in his family or his job where he has to answer or he can get fired then let him continue and finish. Although if he’s texting other women then I would get up and leave regardless of the relationship being steady or not.
I would message him saying 'WTF do you think you are doing?' Then when he looked up let him know I am not playing around I would then tell him to `put the phone away'
If I don't get a reaction And or I am just losing patience I will snatch the phone and put it on the table `save us both time and tell me why I am here?`
His response would tell me all I need to know.
If I was the guy, I would just say I am running your backgroind information and I checking to see if all you tell me is true.
The date is over. It would be funny to end it so badly, that you set her off so bad, she spends the rest of the evening texting, how dare you?
Maybe it wasn’t actually a date. That’s on you.
If they said “date”, i’d just leave.
Actually, even if they didn’t use the word “date” but it was just the two of us and they weren’t really interacting with me at all, i’d still leave. But i have standards. Most people don’t really.
I’d do the same things I do to the kids I teach when they are distracted - stop talking and give them a pointed stare and say, “I’ll wait until you’re finished.” Then when they look up I’d continue with my thought. If it happened repeatedly, I’d simply say, “ok apparently you’d rather be elsewhere so I think I’m going to go ahead and go back home. Thanks for a lovely evening.” Then I’d get up and leave.
I would leave him to text and be on the phone in peace. And after the text (s) and phone call (s), he’ll still be left. . in peace because I would be nonexistent in his life
I would ask him who he's texting all the time. I would also let him know that it's kinda rude to be texting others when he is on a date that it is disruptive and if he cares he will be honest with you and stop that behavior as well.
I'd consider that a failed first date. She's not into me and I'm not interested in a rude cell phone junkie.
At some point, I'd have enough. l'd ask for the check, plop down more than my half in cash, and excuse myself.
That’s not even a date with me then… I can’t imagine any men doing that on a date. That would be so disrespectful.
I would call someone to come and pick me up and take me home. He probably wouldn't even know I left because he'd be on his phone!
I would step back and wonder if I wasn’t setting myself up for disappointment. The signs he isn’t readily available are right there.
At our age? Say "thank you" and "please excuse me" and then leave.
I'd ask if it was important. If it is, we can reschedule. If not politely ask him to put it away and pay attention to me.
I’d leave. I doubt he’d have noticed and i’d be long gone by time he looks up from his phone
I'd leave the date early, because I'd be bored.
s I’d get up and leave. If he’s that focused on his phone then he won’t even notice.
I'm calling them out on it and I'm ending the date right then and there.
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