Is it a red flag if you date a man who is 40 and has never been married?

[Anonymous]

[UmbrusNightshade]

I’m biased and I just want that upfront but I think I can add something to this.


I’m 37 and a half. I’ve never dated outside of taking a girl to homecoming my senior year of high school and asking out about 5 different women, who all said no.


I grew up suffering from severe depression, anxiety and agoraphobia. As an INFJ (which I recently discovered), socialization is even harder for me than most people. All of this tied into me taking a really long time to get to a point where I felt it was time to start dating. I’ve always wanted to love someone who loved me back, be married and raise a family. So … I feel now is the right time in my life to actively seek that.


Does that mean my history should be seen as a red flag? Not necessarily. It’s just that I struggled with things a lot of other guys don’t or won’t deal with or, if they do, to a lesser degree.


These kinds of questions really need to be look at circumstantially. The best way to tell if there are red flags is to dig into this man’s past as much as you can to see if there are legitimate reasons for being a prolonged bachelor or if it comes down to potentially “alarming” behaviors. An example of the latter would be that he refuses to commit and likes to sleep with as many women as possible. You have to decide for yourself what constitutes “alarming” behaviors.

[Summeroflove]

Well. This way just depends on the guy. If a guys divorced a lot…. That would probably be a red flag. Lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. As for me I’m 40 & I’m also not stupid I have assets to protect & never plan to get married & if I’m stupid enough to get married I hope I am smart enough to have her sign a prenup. Marriage is just a piece of paper to me & the only one that makes out are divorce lawyer’s.

[kinggeorge007]

No, it's not. People don't get married for various reasons. The simplest one could be not having met the right person yet. Yes, some guys don't ever feel like marrying any girl for the marriage's sake.

[HighValue]

Not getting married is a wise choice for men since all marriage is, is a way for courts and women to steal from and abuse men.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ha! It proves he is smart. What man gets married this day in age?

[Drachen]

Why would a married man be a fool?

[KrakenAttackin]

@Drachen This question from a girl with tattoos between her tits.

[Drachen]

I'm glad you stayed single and didn't punish any woman for your low iq.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Drachen Go get some more tattoos to enhance your value, should attract the highest quality men.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, but if he's divorced or still married, thats a red flag.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No way! He was completely smart in not waging more than the bet would pay off!

[Danny_dan92]

What are the reasons?

[Pleebody21]

Big time, RUN!!!

[IHateBeingaMan]

not unusual

[In_Trance]

No it isn't

[Anonymous]

How so?