Is it possible to forget how to be in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I'm seeing a guy who has not dated in 5 years. He plays video games all day until 2-3 am. He does run errands and takes care of things that need to be done. But when at home he just plays on his ps4. The only time we have is an hour or 30 minutes before he wants to go to bed. During the day he takes care of his son who is 7 (while playing games) and I have a daughter. But she is 13 and doesn't need as much care. I don't feel like I can talk to him because he said the last time I visited a few days his routine was thrown off his anxiety was triggered. I do love him because he's been with me through some horrible things most guys would have run from. But it's just not enough for me. The relationship is new but it feels like when I was in my 17-year-long marriage. I know it will crush him. But I feel like I need to break things off so he can work on himself.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

We tend to sort of "go through the motions" as time goes on because just getting into a relationship, is a lot of hard work/flirting etc.. than actually being in one. So, we tend to take our actual relationship for granted

[Asker]

We met on Twitter and talked for a year before meeting. This is only my second time staying a week with him. I want to jump ship because I saw this with my ex. I don't want to invest time in a man who does not want to invest in spending time with me. He's 43 and I feel like I'm with a 23-year-old. I'm 33 by the way.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

I'm 33 as well. I wish I could have a 33 year old woman

[Asker]

I wish I could have someone that cared about me. My marriage was very abusive and so much neglect before the abuse happened. I just want a normal functioning relationship.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

I wish I could have someone that cared about me. I've never been married so I'd like to at least experience it once before I die. I just want a normal functioning relationship

[Twalli]

Tell him that if he wants to actually be your girlfriend, he needs to change his routine.

[Asker]

I'm going to talk to him about it. I understand I will have to be patient with him to some extent. He has been treated badly in the past and his last wife left him alone with their son when he was 2 and unfortunately took her own life. I'm thinking he might need therapy.

[Anonymous]

Well you was a woman don't really need to know how because you're not expected to take the lead or lead in anything or initiate anything like men are, don't have to be the one too escalate anything like men do