Is it possible to forget your past love affairs?

[soz11122]

From time to time I feel like I remember my past relationship, my ex and I feel like there will be a part of me staying with them even though I am in a relationship. Do you think it is possible to forget the past love affairs ?

[DaveJord]

Anything is possible. Honestly just because your past relationship ended does not mean it was not successful. I had a disastrous marriage, but we shared a lot of good time together and there were lots of good memories. I do not feel that I am wrong to hang on to those memories just because I am with someone else now.

I mean I am never going to go back to me ex-wife... but I will have carry some part of her with me always. By ex-wife was a total bitch honestly, but she couldn't really help herself.

[NathanDavis]

hmm, I would not call them affairs... with my exes, I had exclusive and committed relationships and about forgetting them? of course not, lol

I do not tend to forget great times and great people in my life, besides that... I'm still close and good friends with the earlier ones but, when we're hanging around or in contact we never make it about the past or us being exes to one another... it's been well over a decade since those young years relationships we had and today we only focus on our friendship and also the larger group of friends we both have in common

and the same goes with the friends we have in common... we all see each other as long-time friends, not as exes

[Anonymous]

Like a favorite poetic like song of mine's lyric says "She'll only be remembering this love that time can't erase"

It really depends on the person. Some people will always be haunted by the memories constantly, others will find it easier to not really look back on it and only rarely remember it. Some will remember it with sentiment and others will remember it for a second and sweep the thought away with ease and feel nothing for it.

[Labokachulaa]

I don't think so, I think that's just a part of life. It sounds completely normal the way you've worded it. I have those thoughts sometimes too, but they always go away as quickly as they came to me. Don't worry.

[Guy13]

The longing and connection, whether good or bad, will never go away. I am not calling you anything as this is directed at the men but also applicable to the women... so please focus of the explanation to your question.

Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her. For he says the two shall become one flesh (1 Corinthians 6:19).

[AviatorTom]

You never forget good things in your life, and that includes love affairs. I sometimes think of the women I've been with in the past, even though I'm happy with my current SO.

[Summeroflove]

Well you can’t forget. Bur you can move on

[coachTanthony]

Yes but it takes a long time.

[AnUglyBarnacle]

It's called imprinting. You'll never forget that person / those people. You have to come to terms with this between you and the current partner, same if they were imprinted themselves. It's not fair if one partner is still stuck on a past person while the other isn't, but this scenario happens.

You may be tempted to leave or cheat at some point, but past feelings are no excuse if your current partner treats you well.

[Spiritofn]

It’s why I don’t want to love anymore… was it love or simply a crush then…….. The idea of love to me is that of having $3 but there’s four people and they’re each going a different way…. One was either mistreated or wasn’t properly loved psychology of a 27YO M

[SnowedIn]

Maybe somewhat a little? I don't think you'll ever forget entirely. Mostly the good but also sometimes the bad. That's just how love works.

[ArrowheadSW]

You still remember them, but over time people tend to take it less seriously. Perhaps it gets into better perspective.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Most of the time, they're no longer in my mind.

[Anonymous]

Depends how many skeletons you're hiding in that closet. I mean you can pretend your past doesn't exist anymore and you're a new person. But the reality is the people you knew still exist. And so do thier memories of you.

[SlavicThor]

This is what puts me off relationships lol, it's easy for me to move on and forget but if my partner struggles with the past, the extra baggage is mixed in with the new relationship

[JanaTalks]

As someone who's never been in a relationship and is in her early 20's this is what i'm concerned about as the chances of me getting into a relationship with someone who's never been in a relationship either are extremely low in today's culture. The damn baggage

[SlavicThor]

@JanaTalks You'll be okay trust me. Keep working on yourself and your self conditioning and nothing will bother you because you know your worth it'll help you repel toxicity, negative people and unwanted drama guiding you to a healthy relationship and lifestyle

That's always been my problem and since I've really worked on it; gym, career, social interaction, style, my confidence has sky rocketted and is still in the works.

[Alex8736]

you try to forget the negatives but the positives are good memories

[exitseven]

You never forget them. Good or bad they will be with you forever.

[JPresidente]

No one ever truly does. The bad parts seem to wash away with time and then you only remember the good times.

[AmeerX]

You never forget them. You just keep them as a distant memory

[Andres77]

I can't remember who I met last week but I can't forget who I've been with decades ago.

[Andres77]

Weird...

[Quigly]

Forgive and Forget, if it was ever a real relationship you wouldn't have broken up with them.

[Guardian45]

NOT forget my past love affairs, but remember them in the BEST light!

[lalaloveee]

Frankly, I don't care for either

[Ninania]

No, and that would be very unhealthy.

[In_Trance]

yes it is