Can you let go of the past?

[AngryCarl3]

George Osborne pulling an anchor

Yes, the past is in the past.

No, the past defines me. I am the sum of all my experiences

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[Rangers]

I'd prefer to learn and appreciate the past rather than just tie myself to negative experiences even after I've resolved whatever bad blood was caused by my actions.

If they're in the wrong, I will not allow my dislike for their behavior become my main trait, which is what they rely on for validation. I deprive them of that while also standing up for myself if any lines are crossed.

So far, it's worked well, most people I've had issues with in the past are resolved and if not, the ones who attempted to mistreat me again under the belief I'd be submissive to it were shown otherwise. They have accepted that ties are indefinitely severed between us and so have I.

Now if one day, some of them change and want to start over with me, I'll see how I like their sales pitch of their changed personalities. I'd judge if they're full of crap, which is the disappointment I'm expecting to experience in such a situation and either reiterate our lack of compatibility, or open up to them. We'll see

[ohsheeT]

All you have is today your born today you live for today

Yesterday is gone its over your to late let ig go never coming back your dead.

All you have is today so be as happy as you can be make it the best day ever

You can't even think about the past and you can't even think about tomorrow because tomorrow is not here your to early your not even born yet

So today I'd the first day of your life its the only day you have better make it the best because its all you get

So if you understand all the above and you live this way. Then you can have a happy life

[emeraldsaphire]

Depends on what we are talking about. I'm pretty good at letting go of grudges, but I'm super sentimental, and I struggle to throw things away. I still have this clay pink unicorn I made back in second grade. My husband says we will need to get a second house to hold all of our kids future are projects lol

[MontBlanc]

Yes, but it takes time and conscious effort.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting , it means accepting what happened, learning from it, and choosing not to let it control your present or future.

Reflection, forgiveness (of yourself and others), and focusing on what you can control are key.

[Keyboardkat]

We learn from our past experiences. There is no such thing as a person who has no history. Each of us is the sum total of all our experiences. Someone famously said, "Those who cannot remember history are doomed to repeat it."

[strateguy632]

No, painful memories still hurt, not as sharply as the event but hurt. If depression interfered with your functioning then it is a "chain to untie" the metaphor here is nonsense.

[Simslover92]

As much as I would like to let it go, I can't and I think the older I get, the better it is that I don't. It has truly defined me and made me into the person I am now.

[MrChinaski]

Is there a half-way? Embrace the person you have made from your past --- the person you are now -- and all of the challenges you have overcome.

And just because I know how much people love hearing me ramble about myself... at some point, I just decided to let go of my past. It took until the past 12 months. So 46 years and a bout of incredibly poor health. It feels amazing. I am leaping out of bed every morning. I am completely free of guilt and responsibility for things I cannot change. It leaves a lot more energy to do a better job of the the things I can change. It means I get to grow again into a better person. It means I can love more cleanly and more fully.

Maybe my mad ramblings will do work for you; if not, I apologise.

[Simslover92]

No you're fine and I totally understand and get it. And thanks for sharing! That did help.

[jshm2]

Seems this dimwit Remez character doesn't understand what "trauma" is about.

Not everything can be "let go" like a cheap American product.

[RandomGirl42]

I don't really have a past to let go of yet. 🤣

[MrChinaski]

I don't really have a future to let go of yet. 🤣

[NoDecision]

Sometimes.

[Chazmatazz269]

I hold onto a lot that isn’t doing me much good. I’ve let many more things go. The difference is forgiving myself versus forgiving others.

[midnightmoon05]

Easy for me. I don’t think about the past because I can’t do much about it. Move forward… appreciate each day that we are here. I love life!!

[Dargil]

Yes. You dismiss yourself from your own past. I did some things that I am not proud of. You just have to stop doing that shit.

[OneViewpoint]

Yes I can. I learned that lesson at a young age.

[Shy_Steve]

[Anonymous]

Option B sounds a answer God would say and even the Devil

To be true :)

[serious]

Yes and No both.

[queenofcardio]

I have for the most part.

[exitseven]

the past is part of me.

[NathanDavis]

I have

[beefcakebradybatson]

The second for me.

[fish5505_87]

Sometimes