Hey! my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 years and i must say he hasn’t always been the most faithful. from 2015-2019, he would DM girls telling them how gorgeous they are and just recently he stopped liking and following half naked girls. not by choice though, instagram deleted his account. till just a few weeks ago he realized how toxic social media really is and how it really ruins relationships. anyway, i stayed with him regardless him DMing girls and liking pictures bc i was hoping one day he would change. i guess you can say he has right? i think so too, however, i can’t let go what was done. him liking girls half naked pictures, following them, him DMing them telling them how pretty they were. i’ve asked him why he did it, his response was he was stupid and didn’t realize how of an amazing person i am. i then asked him, how come you didn’t break up with me if you weren’t sure of us? he said, bc he didn’t want to. i love him, but i also hate him. how can a man do this to a girl? like wtf. i’ve begged him to please stop liking girls pictures and to please unfollow some bc it makes me uncomfortable, he always said no bc it was his instagram and he could do whatever he wants. to some, liking girls pictures and following them is no big deal, but i am insecure so it’s a big deal to me. I don't know what to do
Why is it hard for me to let go of the past?
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To be honest he ain't worth your time he has to delete Instagram in order to stop looking at girls and if it was his decision to do it then okay he is trying to be better. But from what it looks like he is a future cheater
because you see no future
i mean i’ve been with him for 7 years, i did. i just hate what he done to me. all the wounds outweighed the good times we’ve had. like i’ll have a good week without thinking of it then i’ll start a fight. like the relationship is so boring. we don’t do anything. we haven’t seen each other this month.
SO what are you doing to change it? What are you doing to make it less boring?
i’m not doing anything bc he’s supposedly always busy working
That's part of the problem
i know it is. but he always has time for his friends. and when i do call him to ask hey do you want to go get dinner. he says he’s with his friends.
Again, that's part of the problem. Make a change
i understand i’m not the prettiest girl out there but jesus. he makes it seem like he’s embarrassed of me you know. and i’ve noticed too that when we take pictures together, he never smiles. and his eyes look sad
Has nothing to do with your looks. Has everything to do with the boundaries you set and what you're will to accept.
oh so he’s basically like walking all over me
Because you're allowing it to happen