How do I provide for a girlfriend if not financially?

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I work in IT and i rent an apartment studio all by myself (i live alone). That's where most of my money is going out and food. I don't have parents to rely on. They're abusive and i moved far away from them.

That means i don't have money to spend on Fortnite skins, CS GO cases or Onlyfans ( not that i want those ). I'm lucky i could buy a few things in Dead by Daylight. So it's not like i spent much money there.

How do i provide for a girlfriend then if almost all of my money goes as quickly as it comes? and does it mean i have to have money in order to get a girlfriend and keep her happy?

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Being a provider means being a supporter, in essence. You're not required to be the main bacon-bringer, she'll probably have a job to do too. If you want her to be the one to quit her job and stay home to take care of the house, then yeah you'll have to work on providing everything to maintain that stability financially but that's pretty old-school thinking and not really something you should be expecting in this day and age.
But the way that you can "provide" for her is by supporting her, listen to her, learn who she is, what she likes, what she wants. Learn her love languages and how to tell her that you love her, show her that you're thinking of her in small ways that don't even cost money like sending her pictures of things you think she would like or just sending her little texts and other things like that. She's going to have things she'll want to do with her life, dreams to pursue and goals to meet. Support her in those goals where you can. Does that mean finances? Not necessarily, it mostly just means telling her that she can do it, believing in her, helping her along in those emotional aspects as you two deepen your connection and relationship.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you get married you have somebody who can pay half the rent and food and that might help you save money. Like I think a two bedroom might cost less per person than a one bedroom would per person. You could do an arranged marriage and I heard Sundar Pichai communicated with his wife over the phone before finishing his degree and sometimes went 3 months without contact because he could not afford to call her. Look for an understanding woman that will judge you by your future and not your current condition.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you are asking about providing for a girlfriend then your priorities are so far wrong I don't even know what to say. Get the book 'How to Have "Unexpected" Income by John Wolcott Adams ' and put everything in that to practice. And get your priorities straight!

EaterPeter · Accepted Answer

In every other way. Small things often. Be there for her. Help her achieve her dreams and goals. Listen her. Make a detailed love map. Means know little details about her life friendship relatives anything and everything. Read a book or two about relationships.

Summeroflove · Answer

With love. If she breaks up with you…. She doesn’t want you anyways. Find better

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I’m in the same position as well. Except without the games and online stuff. All my money goes to my rent and bills. That I barely have enough for groceries. Sure I want a relationship too and I signed up on so many dating apps for the past 5 years with no success. That I’ve been insulted, rejected and put down by guys because of my financial situation. And these guys are already working (okay good for them.) And to add insult to injury, once they reject me and put me down. They want to end the conversation by telling me to get a job first before I start dating.

its01ashi2001 · Answer

Not at all !
I know, mostly what kind of people r there. But not every girl wants relationship for money. If u find a right one, she'd never demand money or any precious things to accomplish her greedy desires. Instead , she would definitely understand your financial conditions. And that's what a right partner does. We girls don't need money from uh. just give her a lot of love , respect, care , honesty, pamper her , take care of her, respect her and her family , understand her, give her loyalty just make her feel loved and wanted , that's it.

msmissydc · Answer

Why do you think you need to provide for a girlfriend? Woman are not things you buy as girlfriends. The problem is meeting women without any money as I think its easiest in bars or such things. (I mean yes there is online dating too) Also no shame in putting money in a hobby in my opinion as long as you dont spend money you dont have and it evolves into a addiction.

Anonymous · Answer

Give her back rubs, compliments, compliment her on things that are not beauty as well. You can say “you’re so beautiful, but your mind, your mind is amazing”. When you get complimented on the things people can’t see, it really gives you butterflies and you want to keep going back for more and also, be good at giving her head and watching TV/Movies she wants to watch and be down for walks, in home-cooking nights, any free activities, do that with her. Even just writing this is making me smile. I wish I had a man

LazerBean · Answer

You don't. If you aren't married, then you shouldn't be providing for another adult.

Haha456 · Answer

if you cannot provide for your girlfriend financially, it means you won't be able to support a housewife and kids.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Emotional support is huge. holding hands, time together, whatever makes her feel loved. simple things.

suzzieQ · Answer

Have something else to offer than just money. Time, integrity, enthusiasm, ambition, humor, companionship, etc

Gloree · Answer

Most guys like you end up burdening the woman. because you can't handle your finances you get a girl and end up burdening her by asking her for financial help every problem that comes your way.

boggboss · Answer

I work as a janitor and me and my girl both work so between the two of us we can afford to live together

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You pay your half of the bills. And she pays her half.  Now you both have extra money after bills. No one needs to do more than that income wise.

SexyRedd1966 · Answer

You don't have to provide for her she has to contribute something to the relationship more than sex

IveGotNoName · Answer

Simple: you don't have to. Why do you think she would need your financial help?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

I mean all men should be a pimp. Provide for her emotionally so she provides for you financially. Then take that money and provide for her with your money. Get it?

Sasha0426 · Answer

Do you truly WANT to provide for your future girlfriend?

sadgirl0210 · Answer

Why should money makes girl happy?  In my opinion only u being there should make her happy

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

She shouldn't care. Women usually want a man that at base level just listens and approves, no matter how silly her issue is.

Twalli · Answer

I don't have any money, but what I got as a kid. I have a girlfriend. So you don't need money to get a girlfriend, but it doesn't hurt.

HaveNoName · Answer

Your financial "responsibility" would be towards your WIFE, not a girlfriend.

Noah-z · Answer

You don’t marry (date) until you’re ready financially.

peedy · Answer

Look for another girlfriend

msc545 · Answer

No money generally equals no girl, sadly.

Sydefx · Answer

Make some money bro

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