Can you have a girlfriend without spending a dime on her?

[Slim57]

Yes it's possible

No that's impossible

[DaveJord]

Yes totally possible, with my current girl friend I went for a walk in the park with her on your first date. Second date she had free passes to the zoo so "SHE" took me to the zoo. Third date she came to my place for the weekend and stayed with me, and we went hiking. I live in the mountains.

Did I spend money? I mean yes I did, but I did not spend it on her. I wanted to go out and have a great time with an amazing and sexy women and I got exactly everything I ever could of hoped and dreamed for... so any money I spent was on me and not her.

I don't buy her gifts or expensive dinners... but I have paid for a few weekend trips, and give her gas money every time she drives up to see me. Which is every other weekend when her ex-husband has her kids, and she stays Friday night through to Monday morning. But those are things I want, so it not me spending money one her. I want to take a trip and I want someone to share it with and it makes it more fun and more pleasurable for me, so that is money spent on me and the reward is that we both get to be together with some one special.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I think it’s possible. Even though I do okay for a decent living, I’m frugal as hell when it comes to spending money for people unless it’s an emergency, nonetheless a woman. I’m not saying my lady doesn’t deserve a nice out here and there but showering in gifts? That shit is a no for me.


I always say the first date is a cup of coffee because I truly want to get to know them and I want them to get to know me. If she is wrapped in the concept of money coming to her such as “ you should take me out to a fancy dinner instead of this” then that is a red flag. A good woman would be interested in knowing who are you instead of what’s in your wallet.

[CrazyGirl2]

I always pay for my own food and drink on a date, and I’ll often offer to pay for his, so technically if you are a really great guy, it is 💯% possible to date me, and it won’t cost a dime! So yes, absolutely! In fact, the more money a girl wants you to spend on her, the less likely she will be to appreciate it! My point… stay away from girls who want you to spend a lot of money on them!

[Zolly99999]

@CrazyGirl2 that's because you are awesome!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Zolly99999 Actually Zolly, while I ABSOLUTELY HATE to disagree with you calling me awesome…. The real reason that I choose to pay for my own food or especially drinks, is because I got sick and tired of constantly hearing “What do you mean “NO!” Do you have any idea how much I spent on you tonight?” As if I’m a hooker, and as long as he spends enough money, he has a right to my body… WRONG! So, I now pay for my own food and drink, and often his as well. Problem solved!

[Zolly99999]

I can only imagine... Fortunately not all us guys are like that.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Zolly99999 That is true, but after the second, third, or fourth time hearing it, I just gave up and decided that I needed to start paying for my own food!

[Zolly99999]

@CrazyGirl2 I don't blame you one bit

[CrazyGirl2]

@Zolly99999 Thanks hun 😘💋

[DizzyDesii]

Yes. I never asked my boyfriends to buy me anything because I could afford my own. Get you a girl who’s used to buying her own stuff. I admit I’d only expect a gift on my bday or around Christmas but if I dont get anything thats okay, I’ll just return whatever I bought them. You gotta let people know early on, you get what you give

[Zolly99999]

@DizzyDesii that's because you rock !!

[DizzyDesii]

@Zolly99999 aww thanks :)

[Zolly99999]

@DizzyDesii 😁

[Kaneki05]

No that's impossible unless your telling me she will buy literally everything for you. Even just buying toilet roll that she may use is still you spending money on someone else. When two people get together they will spend time and money on each other.

[MCheetah]

Yes, it's possible, but very hard to find. I had a partner like this and told her straight away I wasn't the "bribe my way into your heart" type (back before people called it "simping"). And she was the best partner I ever had.

[Massageman]

almost anything is "possible".

Judging from the question, there IS a hidden agenda to the asking of said question.

Why? Why not? Entitled? Not- entitled?

Can people be friends without spending at lot of money on each other? Yes.

[Subarugirl]

Absolutely, the boys who think it isn't possible just don't know how to attract romantic partners with out using their wallet.

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

Noup... a 50/50 split is still spending money on her meals once a week or month

[Subarugirl]

@hostboy__fastestlaps like I said…. the boys who think it isn't possible just don't know how to attract romantic partners with out using their wallet.

[jamesgoldman]

Sure been there before I was fine to take a meal or the bottle of champagne we'd drink but I couldn't take a £5,000 watch

[Juxtapose]

Dude eventually you're going to spend money on whoever you hang around enough even if it's just to pay them back for a favor they did you.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah poor people date and marry.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If she’s rich you can.

[LimitedBenefits101]

That's IMPOSSIBLE.

[Gent207]

Not with these gas prices 🤣

[Joker_]

nope

[Slim57]

Lying

[Joker_]

you should lie to your girlfriend

[Slim57]

I do

[Joker_]

very good

[Slim57]

Thank you

[Joker_]

you're welcome

[Staximus]

Yes it's possible if you're a fucking bum

[JesseJayNeak]

Impossible in this day and age

[Angelinak06]

Ofc!

[Kelly6]

Yes you can