Is it necessary to spend money on girls or a girlfriend?

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And how much? There is food in my home and i live alone in a decent apartment studio i am renting. Got no parents to help me out in any way whatsoever. I was told the girls should be fine with my place.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

No money necessary whatsoever. I have had a lot of success with women both casually and as long term girlfriends while spending little to no money on them. I'm a frugal person by nature of growing up poor, so I spend very little on myself and that extends to my partners as well. It's never kept me from dating plenty of women. There may have been some in there that were turned off by me not paying for their dinner, buying them things, or otherwise keeping my money in my pocket. But I've never noticed, there have always been plenty of women who enjoy a good time that doesn't cost much. A lot of women I think actually have connected with me because of my money saving, and they like to save money as well, and also don't want to feel like a man is trying to "buy their love".

Trips out in nature, like to a swimming hole or on a hike. Playing sports, or staying in. I'll cook up a dinner at home, or we can trade massage. Just walking and talking is a great way to connect. There are so many things you can do for someone that don't cost a thing. Compliments are free. Listening is free.

As I've gotten older, I've made more money and loosened up a little, both on personal spending and spending money on others. But I don't think it's a good idea to rely on spending money on a woman in order to win her over. It attracts parasitic types.

Is it necessary to spend money on girls or a girlfriend?

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

It really depends on their expectations, what you're comfortable with and what you can afford. Do not under any circumstances spend money on dates that you do not have.

It's possible to have cheap dates. Some women are OK with that, as long as they're having a good time.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I think if you are asking a girl to your apartment, you should pay for the food if you guys are going to eat there.
And when you invite a girl out to eat or go to the movies or concert you should pay for it.

The one doing the inviting should pay for the date.

Maybe if you go to the restaurant, she could pay the tip.

If you go to the show, maybe she wouldn't mind buying her own drink or snack.

It was different when I was dating up until 1999 if a guy asked a woman or girl out, he just automatically paid for everything - without question.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You can stay home and have tap water
I’m joking
I mean a girl who who wants to have a date in Bora Bora won’t match your energy. Right? You attract your own tribe. If you don’t want to spend much you will find a women who accepts it and agrees with what you offer.
So your good

Guy13 · Answer

Dating is not cheap. 75.00 an outing, with Gas etc, should be allowed for.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Most of my dates with my spouse costed next to nothing. Sure sometimes we'd see a movie, or go out to dinner, or do some pay to play activity thingy. Most of the time tho we could do home movie, cooking or picnic type with bringing our own food, and free stuff like walk around town, park games, etc. And when we did do something more expensive we took turns paying or paid for our own. We were very tight budget tbf, so you definitely don't have to do this route, but if you're worried about it you don't really have to spend extra money, so long as you're willing to spend time and energy.

JordynJayne · Answer

Depends on the girl.

For me, I’m self sufficient, independent, and don’t expect or rely on other people’s wallets. I wouldn’t putting myself in a position where I couldn’t afford to take care of myself first before taking care of another person, vise versa.

Kaneki05 · Answer

If a girl comes to your place and even just takes a drink. Then that's money spent on her. So yes it's necessary unless you are gonna be crazy and not allow her to have a drink at yours.
As for how much? That all depends on what your doing with each other.

MrOracle · Answer

The bottom line is that, yes, dating is expensive. That's always been the reality.

I don't recommend that you spend a lot of money on initial dates - that's simply not smart or effective - but if you are dating more long-term, you will need to go on real dates at least sometimes, and that's going to cost money. Even if you hang out at home a lot, there will be plenty of additional costs. Driving her around, meals, events, parking, clothes, gifts, etc. Welcome to being a man.

RavVid · Answer

I might be old fashioned but when meeting a girl I will offer to buy her a drink. It is a non verbal form of communication which is saying that I like her and if she accepts then there is an implication that she might also like me.

I think that most girls would expect you to pay on the first date. But as things progress it should become even.

LovingJo · Answer

Sometimes, yes.
But for me, it's not about the amount. It's about showing the thought that you put into it, and why you thought about that particular situation, objective, object etc, when buying it. Thinking about me, and why you thought I'td make me smile, that makes it special!! 💯😊❤️

Subarugirl · Answer

No, it's not necessary, but spending time with someone always costs something. Time, effort, travel, energy, etc...

I will tell you right now though, I would never go to someone house or a secluded place on a first date. That is unsafe and just an overall dumb idea.

There are plenty of great date options that don't cost money.

TroyDT2 · Answer

It is necessary to show others that you value them in some way if you want them in your life. At some point you will end up spending money that you otherwise would not have spent to be with a girlfriend. Even if she insists on paying her own way every time you will inevitably spend money somewhere or on something that you would not have chosen.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If I had a girlfriend, I would definitely spend money on her. But what people need to understand is I don't want her to expect it or to demand it from me. It's a gift. (And I don't want her to hinge her emotions on it.)
Also, that's not the point of a relationship. Relationships are not about getting free stuff from your boyfriend (or girlfriend).

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

If your age is accurately reflected on this post, you will definitely have to spend money on women. There’s no way around it. How much you can spend will generally correlate to the type of woman you might attract.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Realistically speaking, it often does even if we're eating at your place or we both pay for our own things. In the end you still spend money on the date. Food and drinks still cost money.

slatyb · Answer

Depends on the woman. I'm happy to pay for dates. If she has a comparable income then we might take turnd. If I'm earning twice what she is then I'm happy to pay for our entertainment.

Anonymous · Answer

no.. these days women work too. but its good to get things like roses, jewelry and dinner once in a while. I mean.. men live 10 years shorter than women. They die because of their back breaking job to provide his family for like 20+ years. They need a break.

sassy_receptor · Answer

of course it is. i think it’s necessary for anyone dating to pay for their potential partner or significant other in some format.

melanieeeB · Answer

Necessary? Yeah I would say so, occasionally going out to the movies or dinner does cost something. On both sides!

Nikki1989 · Answer

We spend money on each other, that is what couples are supposed to do.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It’s very necessary. You don’t have to spend a ton on her, but you should be spending enough to finance your time with her

CateM · Answer

You don't HAVE to but relationships should be give and take

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it is. The expectation from most women is that a man will pursue them and try to impress them, and that means money. Most will deny it, but those of us who live in the real world and see the reality of it know it's true.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I would say sometimes. You don't need to spend a lot but I don't think any woman likes a cheapskate.

OddBeMe · Answer

Not for the girl you want. Chivalry would have us pay for the first dates, but honestly you best SO wouldn’t require you spend that much on her. Keep that in mind.

MsMallory · Answer

In my opinion, girls don't always want the most expensive thing and would be perfectly content with something cheap and simple. If a girl wants you to spend a fortune on them they will probably not make the best girlfriend.

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah, buy me a doughnut, bitch  Nah jk jk

EaterPeter · Answer

Effort only as much you can have budget have good income do small things often for her. Pay attention on no cost low cost activities

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, it helps, but if a girl genuinely likes you she probably won't care much. I don't personally think guys need to spend money on me, and I'm female, so I think I kinda count for the question.

BJP21 · Answer

Have to get a sense of who a girl is before they become a potential girlfriend.

AndrésC64 · Answer

The only way it would be necessary is if she's a girl not worth having.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

“Avoid women” Greatest financial advice for any man

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, minimum $100 a time

Anonymous · Answer

Yes 100% important

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