Is casual dating a good way to get out there after abusive relationship?

[Anonymous]

My last relationship was horrendous and I’ve been single for a year. I’m in a good place now mentally and generally etc. I really want to get out there again but the thought of a relationship scares me. I’ve been trying on dating apps but the guys I’ve spoken to who are looking for a relationship seem to be quite quick if that’s the way to describe it and it makes me uncomfortable.

I have to either take it slow or just spend time with someone without the pressure of it having to be a full blown relationship. I just want to get to know someone and rebuild everything. So would casual dating be a good thing? I feel less pressured and scared at the thought of putting myself out there if it’s casual but I feel guilty for considering it

[HollyK21]

I definitely get where you’re coming from. A lot of men on dating apps use them for casual relationships or hookups, and if that’s not what you want then it can be overwhelming and/or off-putting. If you feel ready to put yourself out there again, then go for it but I would say to date with intention. If you have a certain pace you want to go, a type of man you want, etc then don’t be afraid to set those boundaries and expectations. The right guy will be respectful, take things slow and also want to work towards building something. He’s out there, just be patient and don’t settle or make yourself uncomfortable.

[BJP21]

Ditch the dating apps get out to the clubs and bars and even in person singles nights. Even maybe one of us here on GaG if you happen to be neighbors.

[es20490446e]

Meet people in real life. Go to places where liked minded people attend.

[dudeinohio]

sure

[In_Trance]

Yeah