I can’t seem to find the right guy and I’m 24, this makes me super sad and disappointed.. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

[JamesDiaz11]

First, be the right girl. Picture the type of guy who would be a good partner, then be someone such a guy would want (hint: it's probably more to do with being a good cook than how good you are at head).

Second, you probably have shit taste in men; so, it may be best to have your family set you up on dates and give those guys a chance.

[Asker]

I’ve never considered myself picky, I don’t care if the guy is 6ft has a 6 pack, or anything I just want a guy close to my age or not much older and someone who’s kind, loving, loyal, family oriented, caring and empathetic. I don’t think I ask for a lot but maybe I’ve gotten my hopes up too high before for guys who were too good to be true and turned out toxic

[JamesDiaz11]

You shouldn't feel too bad- women aren't very good at choosing partners for themselves, which is why the divorce rate is so high (it's typically initiated by women who find out they don't like who they're with, and the grass is greener...). Ask your family to set you up with someone they know fairly well. Having connections to your family, say if your families are friends, is a good indicator that they know their character and that they won't do anything crazy knowing that it'll reflect poorly on all the people they're close to.

[jshm2]

Depends, could be you're ugly, terrible company, or not dating material, and a thousand other things.

Often when you get people deflecting, like you are, the problem tends to be them more than others.

[inhua]

not finding the right person may be the case if you're purposely limiting your options with certain superficial criteria as in things outside of their control i. e. height

[Asker]

Height doesn’t matter to me. Most of my ex boyfriends were 5”5-5”8.

[VikingWarLord]

It's all about Looks for dudes.

I'm gonna keep it blunt and 100% real.

Keep your weight under 125 lbs (especially if you're under 5'7) and wear tighter fitting clothes. Do light makeup and let your hair grow out. That's really it.

[Asker]

My hair is grown out but I’m natural and don’t wear makeup, average weight also.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & I rather try & fail rather than not try at all. As for you turn your frown upside down better days will come.

[OddBeMe]

I would equate your situation to squeezing a handful of sand. Harder you do it, the less you get.

[bigrook]

How active are you in your search?

[Asker]

I’ve open up more a lot since I was a kid but I don’t see a lot of people my age where I live sadly or close to my age if not much older, mostly in public I see couples pretty much, same with my job, and other outings.

[bigrook]

Have your tried meet-ups, exercise groups like running groups, yoga classes, etc?

[Asker]

If there are young people their taken or only have wanted to hook up

[Asker]

Possibly in the spring they might have some events I’m gonna see if I can sign up

[bigrook]

Not to sound too dispassionate about this, but there's a significant element of luck involved and it is a numbers game.

[In_Trance]

Find something else to do

[Jmmmfi4]

Give up