Am I right to feel hurt?

[Anonymous]

Dating 8 months living in cities 30-40 mins away.
My man took days off from work and for a first week we spent only one night together, he went home to fix something and I ask him to come back once he is done instead of waiting 4 days to meet again. He said he can't let his holiday pass in driving so he can't come and he chose not to meet for 4 next days just not to drive 40 mins to spend a night with me and take me home with him as I am not currently driving.

I feel terribly hurt knowing he'd rather not see me for 4 days then drive 30-40 mins. Am I overreacting?

[MaazHussain]

It's understandable that you feel hurt and disappointed that your partner chose not to spend time with you for several days rather than driving 30-40 minutes to see you. It's important to communicate your feelings with your partner and let him know how his actions have made you feel.

It's possible that your partner may have his own reasons for not wanting to drive or spend time together, and it's important to listen to and understand his perspective as well. However, it's also important for partners to make an effort to spend time together and prioritize their relationship, especially if they have been dating for 8 months.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide whether or not you want to continue the relationship and how important it is for you to have a partner who is willing to make an effort to spend time with you. If you feel like your partner's actions are not aligning with your expectations and needs in the relationship, it may be worth having a conversation about what you both want and expect moving forward.

[Anonymous]

I think you're right to feel hurt, and I don't think you're overreacting. Personally, I do think that's a little disappointing (like if I was in your shoes). That being said, feelings in this regard are subjective so I'm not necessarily saying he did anything inherently wrong. Just that I would feel similarly if I was in your situation.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand, how could driving the 40 mins to your place effect his holiday?

[laraWM]

Yes you're right. Did you yalk about that to him?

[Stevefiveo]

You're not overreacting. He should treat you as a priority and he is not. It's up to you if want to give him another chance.