Does this mean she didn’t like my personality?

[Anonymous]

There was a girl who were crushing on me for a long time. She is really pretty and I asked her out. Before we went out we kissed few times. Two weeks after last kiss we finally went out. After first date she turned me down. I dont know what i did wrong but i had to be really bad when she turned me down after first date when she liked me for a long time

[Anonymous]

It kind of does seem like she lost interest but I wouldn't go as far as to say that it's your personality.. it could be a load of other things. Back when I was younger I hung out with a lot of not so nice women who mainly had interest/attraction in men they didn't have and as soon as the guy showed a mutual interest, they lost all attraction. They liked the idea of the chase more than anything. They liked feeling like they were in a competition with some sort of end prize.

I mean, it could be that she just didn't feel connected to you after going out on a date. Lack of common interests, something gave her the "ick", she just wasn't feeling it, etc etc. There could be so many different reasons why this happened and I'm sorry it did.

BUT don't let it keep you down. I used to get so down in the dumps and even offended sometimes when this would happen to me back in my younger years and it just wasn't worth it at all. It made me super insecure and made me feel unworthy at best. But I did grow and gain some self awareness and realized at some point that while it wasn't necessarily a bad thing.. I did come on really strong, really quickly. And that scares people off. Now I'm older, I'm engaged to a fantastic man, I have a growing family, etc etc and it got better. It will for you too. Just don't let this little thing wear you down. I know it sucks but you'll bounce back.

[In_Trance]

yeah