At some point do people become immune to break-ups or getting rejected?

[Anonymous]

If a boyfriend wants to break up or I get rejected (''oh we don't have chemistry, oh it's not you the problem BS, etc) this is my reaction now:

''Cool, bye, next''.

I find myself going to the movies with my friends and smiling on pictures. My stance now is whoever wants to stay in life permanently great and whoever wants to leave, great. I'm officially immune to break-ups or rejection. Is this what happens to some people too?

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If a break-up happens and I were to be invited to a party the next day, I find myself going to the party and not be affected one bit by the break-up. I got immune to it.

[DaveJord]

Honestly, I totally agree with you. I am like 100% the same way. I have gotten do invested in relationships that just do not work out. At this point I meet someone and I all say to my freinds is that I am going to enjoy it for a as long as it lasts and have as much fun as possible. If it works out nobody will be happier than myself, but in the end the chances are probably not good.

When the breakup comes, I am like whatever... it sucks but I am not going to get all emotional over it or act like I am devastated or anything. It's not Iike I am going to cater to someone or bow down... I put effort into my relationships and if that is not enough on its own and they need more and want more or expect more... then they aren't for me and more importantly I am not the one for them. I can accept that for what it is and move on without all the drama.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You just reach a point where you decide women just aren't worth it anymore.

[Asker]

Well I'm the one into forming a family and ''all the way to the end, till we age'', not ''until the infatuation period fades or just dating for fun... that's not a commitment''. If they're not on the same page with me on that one and will break-up easily over anything, I'm not going to begging him to come back. I keep my words and follow through. If he doesn't then that's on him.

[Opinion Owner]

I said the same thing. Didn't change the outcome. Like I said at some point you just come to decide women aren't worth it anymore. You decide to just stay single and happy. I haven't given up. So much as I don't put any more effort into a partner than she willing to put into me. And since so few are willing to put anything into a relationship it makes it real easy to just remain single.

[Changiis07]

It can happen I believe so yes. Like np time for games the older we get so whoever wants to stay welcome in and whoever doesn't than bye

[Asker]

Indeed. I told my now ex boyfriend that I was into the relationship for marriage and kids. It was a take it or leave it deal. He was ok at first but then couldn't handle it so he left. Whatever.
This is what I've told available dates, that I'm looking to form a family.. either he wants it or not.

[Changiis07]

And you are very smart by letting them know ahead of time what you're looking for so that you don't waste each other's time

[Molly1997]

I’ve always been like this , haven’t been broken up with

[Asker]

It would've been better if I was like that from the start, less time to waste and less chance of getting lovebombed with BS.

[Molly1997]

I think I have a problem lol. If someone says they want to break up it just turns off like a switch I’m just like ok bye 😊

[ashish804]

yeah happens after point of time

[Asker]

True. There is no point in begging them to come back or crying, none. They don't want you so why should I want them?

[ashish804]

the fact is that they lost a gem in loosing us and they don't deserve us in all their life

[ashish804]

and crying or none would not change the fact or scene other than giving us pain

[Asker]

Exactly. It's their lost. My last boyfriend was the type that had little to no options in the dating world (for instance very few women would accept a man that's struggling financially, doesn't drive and is kind of socially awkward), I was offering him the chance to form a family and help him with the bills. He rejected that opportunity and instead broke up. Oh well... his lost.

[ashish804]

yeah.. u can dm and we can talk

[Asker]

Now he's back at nothing. He won't get anyone that's going to accept him like that. No wonder he said he's been single and dateless for 7 years when we met. May he be single and dateless for another 7 years, lol.

[ashish804]

lol may be many more

[In_Trance]

probably not