Is it a red flag that I fell asleep in the cinema on the first date?

[Anonymous]

We went to the cinema after dinner, but the movie was so boring that I fell asleep. He woke me up at the end of the movie. Do you think is this a red flag about me?

[Guy13]

It is only a red flag if you turn i into one. I assume you did not avoid the topic. If you did then he assumed that you had a horrible time and he is crushed. I am hoping you brought up how horrible it was. And that you looked up the reviews so that you could talk to him about whether it was just you or did everyone else "fall asleep too"

[Asker]

The movie was boring and the dark surrounding made me fall asleep. I lied so as not to break his heart, I said I was sleep deprived night because I chose what to wear for today. He said he was understanding, but I'm not sure if I was persuasive enough.

[exitseven]

I would not be too upset unless you were on drugs.

[Guy13]

Try not to overthink things to death so it does not look like you were lying etc. Ask him out if you had a good time or want to try again...

[Anonymous]

He took you to the movies for a first date? Omg 0 points for creativity! A first date should be all out in the creative department, like ice skating (I'm in texas so thats special), a baseball game, an amusement park... if you DO go to a movie, it needs to be either a drive in or a draft house if that's outside of your norm. Not saying it's a deal breaker but there are certain occasions that warrant special attention, first date, anniversary of, Valentines, your birthday, a "Christmas date", when he proposes, and wedding anniversaries... that's 5/ yr, and if you're going on date night twice a month and living together/ having sex on a regular basis, that's not a lot to ask.

[RandomGuy1030]

Agree u have to break the norm

[BigWhiteWolf87]

Not a red flag.

But it may imply to him you're not interested. If he is health concious he's going to question your own health, diet, etc., etc.

So it's not an intentional red flag but it could be a red flag in his eyes.

[MaazHussain]

It's not necessarily a red flag, but it could be seen as a bit of a disappointment or even a sign of disinterest if you fell asleep on a first date. Your date may have hoped for more engagement and enthusiasm from you, especially if it was something they were excited about doing together. However, if you explained that the movie was just really boring or that you were tired from a long day, they may understand and not think too much of it. It's always best to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings and reactions in situations like this.

[spartan55]

Yeah, but if he wanted optimum engagement, a movie is a poor choice.

[MaazHussain]

I don’t agree that movie is a poor choice. In fact because of movie you get so many topics to talk about such as the storyline, the actors, the direction, your opinion and all these can then be connected to a personal level. What went wrong here is the person didn’t ask about the taste their date has for movies. For example, let’s say if I like romantic movies and you took me to watch a documentary styled movie so I won’t be able to connect myself as well because I’m not interested in that genre. I hope you get my point.

[spartan55]

Yeah, I suppose, but only if you have something arranged after the movie to discuss.

[MaazHussain]

@spartan55 yeah true

[AviatorTom]

No, it's just an indication that you didn't like the movie. Hopefully, your date learned from that. He was nice enough to let you sleep until the movie ended... that's a green flag/

[coachTanthony]

It happens especially after a meal. We all get sleepy after eating and boring movies don’t help!

[KrakenAttackin]

No it doesn't unless you are not at all into the other person.

[coachTanthony]

@KrakenAttackin LOLOLOLOL Well obviously for some people it does

[KrakenAttackin]

Seriously, if there is no adrenaline about a first date with someone new, there is no attraction.

[coachTanthony]

@KrakenAttackin Yeah that is possible. We should ask her.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I get though. It's hard not to sleep in those places unless you sleep right before you go. It's not a big red flag and for most people it's not oneToo me it just tells me that you weren't feeling much excitement because it you were, you would have found it hard to fall asleep regardless of not paying attention to the movie.

[Finchie40]

No , I mean you should of made out with him instead if you really liked him but it wouldn’t bother me if she passed out during the movie , that’s why I barely ever go to the movies anymore and realize it’s a waste of money because I am more than likely going to pay to pass out lol

[AMS700CX4u2]

Meal selection is the problem. Things with tryptophan in them will make you sleepy ( Think Thanksgiving) folks fall asleep with the football game on. So, avoid milk products, they will make you sleepy. No turkey, Google tryptophan. They will give you a list of foods high in the culprit.

[Angelo75]

If you want to start a good relationship, try to be honest.
If you're really into this guy, and you want a long healthy relationship with him... honesty will help.
If he can't handle that you tell him the truth, then maybe he is not ready yet for a relationship.
Cuz covering stuff from each other is something that grows little by little and at a certain point it becomes so much that the relationship just crumbles apart.

[Drumlin2001]

A red flag for me would be that you lied, and a bad lie too. I'd be wary of someone so vain it took them do long to choose an outfit that they would be sleep deprived.
I'd appreciate honesty. Just say it wasn't you sort of film, next time you'll choose the movie.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Yes, it is rude. Hopefully it was the movie or lack of sleep, or merely the comfort of having someone beside you that allowed you to feel relaxed enough to sleep.

[Pyrofox]

More like taking note you find maybe movies boring. Next time it might be a hike or picnic over a movie. Keep you more in the moment. Is how I'd see it.

[loveslongnails]

Guess you'll find out if HE thinks it is when he doesn't call you ! LOL Why didn't you ask him if he was enjoying the movie? Maybe he thought it was boring too, and you could have left and done something else.
And by the way, going to a movie on a first date isn't the brightest idea in the world either.

[CreatingWonders]

Not everything is a red flag,
The film was rubbish and you fell asleep doesn’t make you a bad person.


You shouldn’t really have lied though you should have just been honest as what happens if he takes you to the cinema again and you fall asleep if the films rubbish? You can’t keep lying. Just be honest next time.


You can’t both like the same things, and lying just makes it worse.

[Sorrento-Sun]

This made me laugh 😂

Not at all. It just means you were tired and the boring movie put you to sleep.

[scooogy]

Is it a red flag that she dug her head between my legs in the cinema on the first date? I guess weird things can happen, maybe also depending on the movie. It wasn't a date, but my co-worker was at risk of losing his remaining popcorn during the movie due to his loud chewing noises. So I'd say blame it on either the cinema or the movie itself.

[Adam1978]

Cinema is a bad choice for a first date, especially if the movie isn't agreed upon by both parties. I mean why would you pick a boring movie. First date should involve a lot of talking and you shouldn't do that in a cinema.

[Truthatanycost]

Is it a redflag that I bust out laughing at this...

No. Just be honest about it. But if that were me, I would also wonder about her health, stamina, diet, energy etc.. that's just me though.

[OfMiceandMen]

hahaha... nope, just means he's going to have to pick better movies!🤠

[boggboss]

Pretty much shows u was bored and that will make him think u was bored of him

[Sour-rose]

No? I knew of a guy who slept in our theater and I had to push him because he has his hand down his pants and in dreamland. Besides, the movie could be boring and you sleep.

[Pacquet]

Forgive me but this is hilarious. You’re not a red flag for being tired or bored, we overuse this term so much it’s comical. Also movie dates as a first dates are a bad idea cause you spend hours not connecting.

[__cassiexxx]

I’m laughing so hard at this 😭😭I don’t think it’s a red flag I’d find it funny if I were him