A guy I went on 2 dates with asked me if I am going on dates with other guys and I said yes but I am getting off dating apps, how bad is this?

[cdimples99]

Did I turn him off?

[MaazHussain]

It's possible that your response about going on dates with other guys may have turned him off, but it's hard to say for sure without knowing more about the situation and his perspective. It's important to be honest with your partner about your dating habits, but if you want to pursue a relationship with this guy, you might want to clarify that you're interested in getting to know him better and potentially exploring a committed relationship. As for how long to wait to hear from him, it's reasonable to give him a few days to reach out, but if you're feeling anxious, you could also reach out to him and see if he wants to make plans for another date.

[cdimples99]

thank you

I reached out and he hasn't mentioned another date

I just dont know how I turned him off when he asked if I went on dates and I said yes, but am getting off the apps because some men just didn't look like their picture and that I am focusing on my career

We did have a lot of fun though, it's just so sad. So next time I just tell guys I haven't gone on any dates :-(?

[MaazHussain]

It's important to remember that dating is a two-way street and both parties need to be interested in pursuing something further.

In terms of whether or not you should tell guys you haven't gone on any dates, it's ultimately up to you and what you feel comfortable sharing. Some people prefer to be upfront about their dating history, while others prefer to keep it private until they get to know someone better. Ultimately, honesty is important, but it's also important to find a balance between sharing enough information to build a connection while also respecting your own privacy.

[WaterIsland]

So long as you were honest, not bad at all. He is probably trying to figure out the status and where your mindset is. Which is completely natural and normal. I wouldn’t read too much into it.


I guess the only exception is if he responded badly or something once you said that. But you didn’t include that in your question so can’t really advise there.

[cdimples99]

well he said he went on a few good dates and a few not so good ones, but I do want this guy to invest in me, but think I ruined it @WaterIsland

[WaterIsland]

Nothing I’ve heard indicates you’ve ruined it. You could just tell him you feel like you have the greatest connection with him so far and hope things continue to progress.

[HollyK21]

It’s not “bad” and I actually think you should be confident about mentioning this. Until he’s talking about getting serious, there’s no need to be ashamed that you’re still exploring your options after 2 dates and don’t have all your eggs in his basket so soon. To be fair, he could just be making conversation or curious about who else has your attention right now.

[cdimples99]

thank you @HollyK21 but I do want this man to be my boyfriend at some point, which is why I am thinking I messed up. We had a date last night but I haven't heard from him. I don't know how long I should wait to hear from him

[HollyK21]

It’s good to already know what you want☺️ have you two has a talk regarding his intentions for talking to you? Personally with my current boyfriend, it was two months dating before we made it official and during that first month, my options were still open until we went out one night and had a talk about our next steps. We decided to be exclusive to one another for a while before putting a title on things. But of course everyone goes at their own pace.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Two dates and he is already attempting to isolate you? That call is yours not his. If you find him intriguing your will naturally gravitate to wanting to be with him alone. Watch for other signs of manipulation. If present, "see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya"

[bowenw]

It shouldn't be a problem and it was kind of rude for him to ask.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

No, but judging from your questions you are really insecure, and that turns guys off.

[boggboss]

If u was long for somthing serious its pretty bad from his viewpoint

[cdimples99]

thanks for your honest opinion I just didn't want to lie to him and say I didn't go on dates with anyone

[rabbitzzz]

Not too bad for casual stuff. He may create an youtube account in the future and make videos about how these hoes ain't loyal and smoke cigars and stuff.

[Drumlin2001]

Until you have a conversation about exclusivity it's fine.

[cloud9vortex1234]

If so, I think he needs to get over it. Your dating and not in a relationship. It's nothing to feel bad about.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy. I mean yeah it's a turnoff but on the flipside it's the truth when you could have just lied. So 6 one, half a dozen.

[Anonymous]

He will be done with you.

no guy wants a town bicycle

[Alex8736]

nah. he's just insecure

[Anonymous]

He planning to have backup plan

[Zayed_]

Real bad.