What are signs that you’re dating a narcissist?

[Fwcheerios]

Share your opinions, experiences, or perspectives

[CreatingWonders]

Well as I dated one I will begin.


She made everything about her,


She would mirror me:
so if I liked something she’d like it as well, if something happened to me it also happened to her.


They love bomb you:
she would say she loved me 83837 times a day which got very boring very fast.


Gut feelings:
I always had a bad feeling about her from day one but didn’t know it was her I thought it was me.


Sorry:
She loved the word sorry would say sorry then turn it around and make it my fault.


Violence: oh yes there’s violence she’d keep smacking me in the balls whenever we were together, even though I’d say stop that hurts she’d keep doing it anyway, she also tried to stab me with carpet scissors.


Name calling:
There’s a lot of that and it’s not nice she’d call me names all the time and then when I said I didn’t like it she’d say it was a “joke”


Joke:
Everything she’d do that hurt me was labeled as a joke and I was a pussy for not taking it as one.


Suicide:
Treats to kill herself if I left her, I left her and she hasn’t followed through.



Flying monkeys:
people who stand up for her oh yeah they have them people who will become your friends just to keep tabs on you.


Isolated:
prepare to be isolated they will turn you against everyone and you’ll have no one for me I was lucky that my friend did happen to come back to me and we are talking again now.


Reactive abuse:
you will hear this term used when they do something to you and you flip out, yes I’d flip out a lot because she would trigger me with actions or words and I’d even say things I’d later regret or I’d do something I’d later regret.


Hopelessness:
you feel hopeless like you will be trapped in this nightmare forever but trust me you won’t. I got away and I’ve bettered myself I can now see her for what she really was and I can see that none of it was my fault,


Harassment:
prepare for this you will get this if you leave them. 9 months and she’s still trying not as much as she was but it’s still there.


Healing:
I am still not 100% fine and I do have my off days, but I am becoming a better man and I am calmer and I feel so much better now that she has gone.


It’s taking time and I do realise now that there were somethings I wish I’d done differently with her and there are times I wish I never met her, but I did and that is that. It’s taught me to be more patient and to be more observant of people now.


I know I will become a better man while she’ll just keep being her.

[DryGermanGuy]

They make every conversation about themselves. So if you are in need to vent, they are practically not listening. Pointing out flaws in other people to get compliments. They use many situations as mere props to be the center of attention. Constant need for pointless selfies on social media, etc etc.

[xHoneyxBeex]

The term "narcissist" is thrown around so loosely these days. This is a Cluster B personality disorder. According to the DSM-5, for someone to actually have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, an individual must meet 5 or more of the following:

• 1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
• 2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
• 3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique.
• 4. Requires excessive admiration.
• 5. Has a sense of entitlement (unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations).
• 6. Is interpersonally exploitative (takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).
• 7. Lacks empathy (is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings of others).
• 8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
• 9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

If you are dating someone who only shows one or two of these behaviors, they wouldn't be a narcissist but they could still be problematic in a relationship so it's up to you to determine the limits you are willing to put up with. However, if you notice that the person displays multiple of these behaviors, I would certainly steer clear of them.

Source: American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.).

[jennifer_bloom]

Narcissistic men try to keep you loyal by destroying your confidence, your pride, your dignity and your self esteem. My abusive mom did it to me and my dad which is why I do not love her. I know guys that did it to disabled girls they dated, they purposely choose girls that other guys did not want so they could control her and abuse her.

[rachel776]

[bowenw]

They like to talk about themselves and will steer conversations to make them about themselves. They love to gloat. The ones I've known tend to be controlling and can be pushy.

[Noodle_fan]

highly confident and arrogant at same time , always talk mostly about themselves even if u dont ask , has zero or very low empathy with other people , think that they are always right.

[Shamalien]

If you feel manipulated and taken advantage of that’s a good sign.

[legalboxers]

biggest one.. They are abusive and controlling

[BeMuse]

They take a lot of selfies...

[Mayo503]

From which side female or a man

[Fwcheerios]

Either or

[Mayo503]

Loads I say…

[motownplayer2000]

He likes himself a lot.