Do what's right and just over way makes your boyfriend happy. Of course I don't know the situation well, but based of what you said this is a 🚩 from both of them (the other guy and your man).
Don't jump to conclusions to quickly just yet, make him understand where you come from and why this is so important to you. If he thinks that this friendship he made is more important than doing the right thing, then needs to go.
One of the biggest vetting points I say people should pay special attention to is morality. Do you want to marry someone who doesn't share your morals? I would say that most likely the answer is no. This is why once again, you need to make him understand that this is not negotiable and if he doesn't, then he needs to 👋🏿
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First, favor to ask with long questions like that: please insert some line breaks to avoid the great wall of text.
On this one, I agree with your boyfriend. Stay out of it. Don't advise her. Listen. Have coffee. Be a friend. But you're not Dear Abby or a professional relationship counselor.
So many things but honestly i think it depends on what your friendship does for you. You can influence her and give some advice, but the actions is all hers to make. You can't literally break them up unless they do it in the end themselves. So i dont think it's "bad" to interfere in friend's problems. Otherwise what are friends for?
Also for your friend, it's fairly obvious from the amt of idea i get from your story that she is in a toxic relationship. I think you guys should have a 1 on 1 talk about how she feels, not what she think is "right" for him and them. Walking away can be hard but let her figure out the answers herself, then maybe she can decide what to do with her boyfriend
You've done the right thing and I would say support and help her.
I'd also look at your boyfriends conduct. His comments imply he supports this other fellow's behavior - decent respectable men would've stepped in themselves and told the loser off - so you may want to consider that before 12 months from now you find yourself in her shoes.
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What a mess. No idea. Good luck sorting this out.
Real or not, in this example both of the men are selfish. One more than the other, but still. I'd suggest reminding your lover not to view people as objects. Another question for him to digest is, who does he value more, the girl from the other couple or the guy? Does your lover see the other guys behavior or does it not bother him?
For how you should act around the girl, I'd say supportive. If it's true, she needs someone who looks like they care for her. I don't know where you're from, in what kind of relationship you and the other couple are, married or not and under which religion. Sadly it's never so simple.You should absolutely be there for her. Her well being is far more important than maintaining the status quo so you can hang out with them as a couple. Offer her support and give her more unbiased advice. If your boyfriend has a problem with it, that's a red flag on his part. Having friends that are a couple is never reason to stand by when one of them is degraded, manipulated and potentially abused.
If i were in your place i would help her out. In my opinion helping a person takes priority over the possibility that this would mess our relationship
Wow… sounds like a bit of a mess
But I say keep what you wanted to do in the first place but just beware of what you say to her …
Of course you can be her friend which you are…
So yea go …- u
Just keep it professional, and keep It at good friendly advice like a counselor would
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