I have a friend. For my bday we went out she bought me drinks and I told her to flirt with me. She then called me pretty and said my laugh was fucking cute. Later she said she flirts with friends just because. At work I kept correcting her and she stared into my eyes and was smirking and it felt weird. I jokingly kicked her out to leave and she lingered at the door and looked at me smirking and was like “enjoy your coffee”. Once we accidentally brushed hands and she laughed and said “I can’t believe we just touched hands”. She’s stayed past her shift until our other friend tells her to leave. Also she weirdly lingers after each thing she said to me and she touched my veins on my arm after I pointed them out. We were gonna hangout with a friend but she cancelled so my friend just offered to go to her house and watch a movie and chill and once she said watching a movie is code for sex. I had a grad party and invited my ex. her and I made out like 4 times. I initiated because I was drunk and she said “I love you” when she left and texted when she got home. Next day she said she chalked my behavior up to me being drunk and flirting and she didn’t think she was flirting. My ex saw us kiss and said she was “putting in work”. she said she didn’t think I meant anything more and has platonically made out with friends. I’m kinda interested in a girl from my college and I always talk about her around my friend and once I tried showing her a pic and told her I would show her the next day since she was leaving and she was sick and she wanted me to show her right then. I hadn’t seen her in a week. She told me she had tea that she would tell the next day. I told her I had tea too and she told me to text her what it was before she slept. I think she thought it could be about the girl. Today she told me on her trip she slept with two guys and the details. Whenever I mentioned rugby girl she quickly changed the subject and told me she made out with 3 girlfriends there. What is this?
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Wow, that's a crazy situation you've got going on there with your friend. It really seems like she might have some kinda feelings for you beyond just being friends. All that flirty touching and lingering and stuff, plus making out with you when she was drunk... that's not really normal friend behavior.
It's tough cause you obviously care about her as a friend, but her sending mixed signals like that is just gonna make things confusing and messy. If I were you, I think I'd try to have a serious talk with her at some point when you're both sober and clear-headed. Maybe say something like you value her friendship but need to know where you both really stand so no one gets hurt.
At the very least she needs to be honest about whether she actually likes you as more than a friend or not. And you need to be upfront that while you care about her, you're interested in dating other people too. Hopefully talking it all through can give you both some clarity. If not, you might need to consider putting some space between you for now until things are worked out. The last thing you want is for this stuff to stay complicated and mess up your friendship or chance with other people ya know? Good luck figuring it all out.