Why would a man ask me out on a date 2 weeks after our first meeting?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Let’s say, We met each other 2 weeks ago on a party of a mutual friend, we had a wonderful time and a great chemistry.

You expected him to message the next day but instead he messaged and asked you out 10 days later.

[Kilapan]

There are many possible reasons.
1. You may have felt that he moved too fast on the previous date.
2. Perhaps there was another person who interested him and he paid attention to that other person.
3. Maybe he was too busy.
4. Maybe he expected some message from you. Although this is rarer since one does not usually expect that much.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe he was out of town for a week. Maybe he was n he process of breaking up wth someone else. Maybe his mother was in the hospital.

Could be many dfferent reasons. Does it matter?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

None of these has happened to him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I just really wonder why would it take him 10 days to message after having a truly amazing evening together.

[OlderAndWiser]

f you really want to know. . . if you accept a date with him, he will probably explain.

[AFretiredTXn]

Agree, there could be many reasons for not immediately contacting. But he has taken the step now.

[AFretiredTXn]

Added: What was your reply?

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he was probably interested in someone else but since that didn’t pan out he figured he reach out to you finally

[Finchie40]

If I was you don’t waste
Your time , if he was really interested in you then he wouldn’t of waited 10 days. , it sounds like he is weighing his options , don’t be a connivence to someone , he is clearly playing the field

[Finchie40]

Convenience sorry about that, stupid spellcheck

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, maybe.

I was really surprised he didn’t message me the next day, cause we had such an amazing chemistry, everyone thought we were a girlfriend and a boyfriend

[Finchie40]

Yea that is definitely what he was doing then , don’t waste your time the. , he was a bullshitter , especially since you stated you had great chemistry with him at the party , No guy waits that long for a girl that he is really into , don’t have Sucker written on your head, you deserve better than that. I had girls pull this shit with me as well to find out they were getting drilled by some other guy that they were unsure of , and stupid me
Finds out after the fact , so I don’t fall
For that shit anymore , when someone really likes you they don’t wait that long

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I just wonder if he was with someone, why was he there alone spending whole evening and a night next to me?

[Finchie40]

He probably was , sorry to say , he probably would of had sex with you that evening as well if you gave him the chance , since it was his window of opportunity away from whoever he was seeing , Guys like him are trash , they only care about themselves, Selfish pieces of shit that only think with their dicks that have no heart , they will tell a girl everything she wants to hear to get into her pants , if he accomplishes that and gets his way , then he will kick her to the curb and go back to the girl he cheated on in the first place acting like nothing happened. We live in a fucked up world with so many selfish people around us , people only do what is best for them , Girls do this shit as well to the point I won’t commit to any girl until she
Can prove to me she isn’t selfish. I don’t commit to be single , no point in it , If you can clearly cheat on your partner with someone else you only love yourself you don’t love your partner

[Finchie40]

For your sake , I hope you didn’t allow this guy to take advantage of you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. I don’t sleep with anyone I don’t have a very close relationship with.

I didn’t have sex with him, if he had hoped for sex, why’s he ask me out on a date?

[Finchie40]

Hoping for sex with you

[loveslongnails]

Maybe he was traveling for work? Maybe he's dating another woman too. Maybe said woman dumped him and you're option #2 ? Maybe was busy with a host of other things?

If you accepted the date, it now gives you a chance to bring it up in conversation by playfully asking " hmmm, so what took you so long, handsome?" It shouldn't be too difficult to determine if you listen closely to his answers.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Oh mind reading question, so I'll just guess... BECAUSE HE WANTS TO FUCK!!!

Pretty sure I've just displayed my 10,600 IQ.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And he expects that in a cinema date?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I would. Movies are where I expect to at least get an ole fashion hand job... Wear a dress. Expect to be asked to go to the bathroom with him... that's my favorite.

I'm getting hard just thinking about it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There’s no way I am having sex out of relationship

[D_Bone_Steak]

HA! I've heard that one before.

Good joke though.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hahaha, definitely not from anyone like me.

Last time I had sex it was with my ex fiance almost 3 years ago. If I wanted to have sex with anyone else, I’d have it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

3 years? Jeez... oh damn... How do you not start going crazy?

Like I went a month not long ago and I started pretending I was the Joker from that Batman Dark Night movie... was hitting on every woman that was just trying to bag my groceries.

I just don't believe you... and that's you in the profile pic right? so I don't think you'd have any problems finding it. ... eh, I sort of get it though... things are bad out there right now. Every time I run into people and have to deal with them, I start to wish I lived in the middle of the woods.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I just got through being hounded by some methed out looking dude... I think he wanted me to buy him cigarettes... something about EBT and stuff I don't know anything about. That situation is sort of what I think life is like for females... they have something people want and they just get hounded endlessly for it. The dude was like following me around... I was about to throat-punch the fucker and I just wanted to be left alone.

Sorry for the story... I had to rant about it to someone. One of my random stupid thoughts.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s me in the pic. I was in a LDR and broke up 7 months ago. I just started recovering from it.

Of I wanted to be intimate with anyone, would be very easy.

I just don’t feel like having sex unless I am in a quality relationship. Not saying it’s easy but that’s my choice, would be harder for me to be intimate with someone I don’t love and who doesn’t love me back.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah, it would be easy for you. LDR's are shit... going through that myself right now and I've seen a lot of them... they usually don't work out.

Well damn, I give you props for having that sort of willpower to hold out for something with a deeper meaning than... just sex. I just can't wrap my brain around it. Like I see these MGTOW monk dudes and I respect them and agree with why they're doing it... but I'm still thinking like, how do you not have your genitals exploding? I go without sex and I'm right back to nutting on myself in my sleep or just nutting on myself trying to watch T. V... maybe I guess it's different for a female too. I don't know about that though.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have to chain myself to the bed when I am ovulating haha, it’s not easy for women either. First I was holding out because I was going to get reunited with my ex fiance and we were waiting for each other, then he cheated and we broke up before we reunited. I don’t know what I am more angry about, him breaking my trust or him taking away that 2.5 years of waiting to finally f*ck him again. I can’t do that with anyone I don’t have deep feelings for.

I can, of course, but I’d hate myself afterwards. So, first I need to date, which I started recently, cause I think I finally recovered from a break up, so here we go - dating then figure out if we click, then develop some sort of deep emotional connection, then trust and when it’s mutual, I guess I can enjoy having a great sex life.

I dated one guy recently, I had to break it off cause I found out even though he was a great guy, we were totally incompatible.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

This guy, the one mentioned in the question, I really like him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am sorry about that disturbing experience with that methed out looking dude.

And you’re right about the life of females.

Growing up I had to be careful who I trusted because literally everyone wants you, so you gave to pick carefully, who wants you because of your body, and who wants you because of your personality + body.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

One more info, we didn’t meet for 2.5 years because I went on a 3 week trip to my country a bit after pandemic started, but China (his country) locked itself down for almost 3 years, it was impossible to get in there for me and it was extremely hard, very expensive and risky for him to leave and go back again. So we waited, we would never imagine we’d have to wait so long. I fell into a depression because of all this sexless life with someone I loved, my love language is - touching. Was so so hard for me… But I managed to stay loyal to him all this time. I turned down lots of hot guys, some celebrities who wanted to have just casual relationships with him and I can’t just do it now.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Gosh… I talk a lot but I have to take it off my chest.

It is really hard.

I have to remove myself from the situations where I might get tempted.

I try to make myself busy with something else, but gotta be honest, sometimes when a handsome delivery man knocks on my door, I have a hard time not to drag him inside 🤣🤣🤣

3 years is a LOT. Even one year was a lot. I was counting days when I’d be back to my ex fiance.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Women have to be careful. I felt like I was about to be in a knife fight just because some dude wanted me to get him cigarettes because I guess his EBT won't buy it for him. "Not my problem" I mean seriously just start vaping like me... or maybe be healthier and just quit. It's probably good to stop a bad habit if you can't even support it anymore... that's my logic.

Smoking does feel fucking awesome though, but that's beside the point.

A woman though... oh yeah... I imagine it's like having zombies that just chase endlessly. I'd be on a random bus or train and just see it happening. Even with myself when I got buff... fucking fat chicks... the hot chicks still play shy and I get nothing but fat chicks wolf-whistling me and gay guys trying to trap me in the restroom.

Would love to just move out to the woods, farm chickens and some plant food. Maybe goats. Humans are fucking annoying.

[chicosuave]

umm he probably busy. why are you in a hurry? dating requires patience

[FilmGuy93]

Because he liked interacting with you? Lots of guys hate texting with a passion.

[Grond21]

Either you are a last resort... or he is terrified and had to work up the courage

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

How do I know which one is it?

[Grond21]

See if his attitude is seeking to impress you or not. If its the former, then he will be confident with maybe a little arrogance.

[loveslongnails]

You probe him and listen for authenticity. Then you see what happens going forward, if you even want to see him again.

[JoeMichael67]

Guys who come off too eager are in the fast lane to the friendzone.

[Alex8736]

did you reply to the message saying "Who's This?". 🤣

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope.

[Alex8736]

that would have given him the impression you moved on. just saying 😇

[mathew1543]

So he didn't message you even once in these 10 days?

[Anonymous]

I think you’re missing a lot of chances. Also this dude, why won’t you text him?

[jourde09]

Is there a woman who wants to be my partner? the person in the profile is me

[mark000h]

Didn't want to seem desperate.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

For 10 days?

[Wise4myage]

He feels good about you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But why wait for 10 days till messaging?

[Wise4myage]

He needs to answer that question.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, after 10 days he answered that question and he decided to message?

[Wise4myage]

You might not be that important to him.

[Jennz6]

Afraid you will say NO…

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he's interested in you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But if he was that interested why wait for 10 days till messaging me?

[eagle1951]

damn he waited 2 weeks

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep. I wonder why.

[eagle1951]

you must have what he wants

[iSensei]

Maybe he is thinking about in these past 10 day

[KrissAvarr00]

Maybe he just wanted to wait to not seem desperate

[msc545]

why not?

[msc545]

Also - why didn't you contact him?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Because I kissed him, he kissed me. We had an amazing chemistry and I expected him to message me first if he wanted.

He is very attractive, looking like a Hollywood star and I was thinking maybe he didn’t like me enough.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He kissed me 4 times, we shared some very romantic moments not mainly sexual, everything was just really romantic.

I was shy that we kissed so many times that night, I felt shy of myself that I acted too open, so I decided not to message. Just let it stay in my mind as a very memorable evening.