WHY AM I SUCH A P***Y?

[Anonymous]

There's this girl at work, who CLEARLY digs me, and obviously waiting for me to make a move, but every time I get ready to do it, I choke up and pussy out!

Someone tell me to grow some balls. Be as mean as you want. I deserve it!

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So I got rejected! It was fucking awesome though. Thanks boys!

[coachTanthony]

You care too much about the outcome of asking her out. Gotta be okay with her saying NO. You can't be everyone's cup of tea and to think so is just arrogant.

[Asker]

That is very true.
I guess she has a boyfriend after all, but I said I'd be there to catch her if she falls out of it with him, and she said she'd love for me to be the one who catches her.
So it didn't work out, but I still had fun. That's all that matters.

I take rejection well, I've just been out of the game for 7 years, so it's nerve racking lol

Thanks Coach!

[Dtate]

Playing arrogant only works for handsome guys or popular guys. You need serious charisma if you're average and lower.

[genericname85]

a good method is just tricking yourself. just go over and say hallo. do it on a whim. don't think about it at all and don't plan it. just do it.

[Asker]

Ok man, I'm gonna do that. Thank you!
Just dive right in

[genericname85]

the best part about it is that you will seem nervous and maybe you even stutter or maybe you don't even know what to say after hi. but that's great. cause this shows that you're just being honest, being yourself and it's relatable and genuine. it works in your favor.

[Asker]

I took your advice brother. I got her number!
I hope you're right because I made a complete fool of myself and sounded like a dork, but I've been out of the game for a long time lol.
But she smiled and blushed and said "Really? Ok!"

Thank you so much buddy!! That's all I needed.
Time to fuck it up now! Lol, just kidding

[genericname85]

right on. good for you man! you didn't make a fool of yourself. you did what you had to do, to get what you want. and even if she would have said no, this would still have been great success. her saying yes is a great bonus. that's how you gotta think about it :)

[Asker]

Hell yeah man, that's a good point! Turns out she has a boyfriend, but she did say some pretty hopeful things.
Either way, you gave me the boost I needed to get back in the water, and I had fun.
So it's all good!

[Asker]

Appreciate you!

[Dtate]

Best advice I can give is to say...

What's up? I'm "So-and-so". What's your name?

Gazing into her eyes the whole time with a warm smile (or smirk). Speak slowly and chill (low). That'll help you be confident.

-And not a little nut lame.

[Asker]

Lol, a little nut lame. That's good advice man, thanks

[Anonymous]

Because u likely think she is above you. And you are intimidated and nervous.

Basing it off of my experience, i was the same like you around a girl. She was confident enough to help tho.

[Asker]

You are 100% right lol. I feel like a bitch and she's hella cute
Got her number though!