Am I being an a**hole?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend suffers from anxiety, bipolar, and depression. All of which he is on medication for. He has a habit of letting his meds run out and not refilling them BEFORE they run out. When this happens, it affects his behavior, because this is medication that he needs to keep his illnesses in check. When he doesn’t take it, he goes down this mental spiral. I have tried helping him remember to refill his pills, but since im not physically living with him it’s hard to do. Recently, he did it again and because he went a whole week without his meds, he is spiraling and expects me to feel sorry for him, but I don’t because at the point he is choosing to ignore the responsibility of refilling his pills. First time it is a mistake but if it’s something that he continually does, it’s a choice. It’s hard for me to be empathetic because I feel like he deliberately chooses to not refill his meds even though he knows the consequences it will have on his behavior. We have had this conversation several times and I just don’t know what else to do to help him see the light. Am I an asshole for feeling this way?

[Leapfrog00]

No, you're being the level headed one. You've reminded him countless numbers of times to refill them before they run out and he didn't. What he should do is ask the pharmacy to put him on auto-fill and give him a reminder call when they're do.

That's only natural that you'd be worried about him, but upset at the same time that he isn't listening to you. If he has major depression, he may need someone to push him to keep on those meds because he might not care.

I know I didn't when I was on mine. There's really not much you can do but push him harder, which it sounds like you pushed him as far as you could already.

If you think he's doing this on purpose, you need to tell him, "Hey, you're playing with your health, and you keep ignoring me. Do you not care what happens to you? Do you think I don't care? Do you realize what you're doing to yourself and me?"

When you're confronting him about doing it deliberately,, ask questions like that because questions show you're listening, BUT at the same time, you're pissed and you mean business."

When people are asked probing questions, they tend to take you more seriously! Trust me! I hope this helped.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No my ex was the same way. Be an adult. Take your meds. Make sure they are refilled. Every day. It's not hard.