Am I being an A-hole?

[Anonymous]

I've only been dating this girl for a month, we've only hung out FOUR times, and she already wants to me to drive 3 hours to meet and stay with her family.
I told her I'm not comfortable doing that yet because I hardly even know her, and now she's mad at me lol

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+1 y

I do feel bad, because she's a really sweet girl and she loves her family and wants to show me off, which is adorable, but it's just weird

[MemeSupreme]

no, you communicated a boundary which you should. it's okay for her to be mad too and okay to say how she's feeling, but she shouldn't take it out on you. i wouldn't want to meet the other person's family and moving that fast would freak me out. i like to take things slow, so it makes sense you don't want to either

[Asker]

I'm with you there, 100%.
Luckily she came around and understood. We're good now lol

[Spongebobssocks]

Do what feels best for you. Tell her what you waid here. Say "its really sweet but I would like to spend more time with you first":)

[Asker]

Absolutely, that's pretty much what I told her. I also said it's not an indicator of uncertainty about us, but she hasn't responded to that yet.
Thank you!

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay I see. How do you know she is upset?

[Asker]

After I told her I wasn't comfortable taking that step yet and wanted to get to know her better, she just said "fine"

Now she seems to be ignoring me lol. I'm pretty sure I either embarrassed her or hurt her feelings. Or both

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright I see. Let her cool off. A woman saying "fine" is never good.. i'd know lol.. smh

Just send her a red heart and let her cool off for a bit. She will problaby contact you within 48 hours.

[Asker]

You're so right 🤦‍♂️

I'll do that, that's a good idea.
Thanks for your time and advice!

[Spongebobssocks]

No worries. Glad I could help. Goodluck!:)

[Asker]

Thank you! 😊

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO!😁

[Asker]

Thanks for your help! It worked

[Spongebobssocks]

Awwwe nice!😃 I'm glad it worked

[Asker]

Me too baby

[Asker]

Shit, I didn't mean to put "baby" lol
I meant to put a smily face 😊

[Spongebobssocks]

Its cool! Wish you both the best! Bye:)

[Asker]

Thanks!

[roseloyaa]

I feel like your reaction to that is pretty normal and you're definitely not being an asshole lol

Were you guys friends for a while before dating?

[Asker]

We work at the same place, so I've known her for a couple years, but we never really talked much and we weren't friends

[slatyb]

You aren't. She's rushing things. Dump her.

[Asker]

Lol, dump her. You're right she is

[Blues36]

you should do what you want

[Asker]

You're right

[Grapessss]

No that’s a lot for only a few dates

[Asker]

Thank you! That's what I thought