Just out of curiosity, have you ever paid for a date?
My experience is that men will say yes to a relatively attractive woman, they will fuck her too and still not feel much just take advantage of the situation. (I'm generalizing of course!) If he plans a date and pays for it, that shows a bit more interest/investment from his side (still could be using the willing participant and expecting sex for the dinner)
What I do is that I let him pay for the first thing, maybe a coffee and cake, or museum entry fee, whatever, I thank him and I say that I'm buying the next thing. He buys the tickets, I buy the food.
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Because neither party feels attractive in the situation where the woman pays. The man doesn't get to feel like a hero who rescues the woman from starving that night, and the woman doesn't get to feel protected and cherished.
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I is just an example of tradtional separation of gender roles. Men initate romantic pursuits, pay for dates, open doors for women, propose, carry out the trash cans, change the oil in the car, fix the leaking faucet, etc. Women take great efforts to make themselves attractive, patiently await the lead of their partner, cook the meals, doing the other nurturing things, bear children, decorate the home, etc.
None of it has any connection with gross annual income.
It's just hypocrisy that apparently most men have settled for. Even though it's unfair, men like providing and women like guys that provide. What pisses me off is when guys have expectations of traditional in other areas like having children, women cooking and being non-promiscuous, they're calling misogynistic and insecure. It's typical feminist double standards.
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When I date professional women, they almost always expect to pay half, for themselves, or for everything half of the time. When it's a college student, it's understood that I'll pay.
She can pay for some day trip that she puts together and surprise/forces him to go too. Now that's a cool way to even out the balance sheet if that's your hope.
Because it’s a tradition and socially expected by women, it’s as old as dirt, men provide. It also shows masculine energy, and women are attracted to masculine energy. If you don’t treat on the date most likely the woman will not want to see you again, and it will be very hard to find a girlfriend. I known a man who won’t treat on dates and he’s been single for years. Most men will treat on dates, so if you don’t, there is a lot of competition and the odds are not in your favor. If you don’t wanna spend a lot of money on the first date or serval dates whatever your comfortable with, which is understandable, you just tell her you wanna meet up for drinks or coffee. If she has a problem with this then her intentions are in the wrong place, and you shouldn’t talk to her again.
It's because "equality" is cherry picked. A guy on this site posted about some extremely sexist job opportunities.
Why are these jobs held by 90% men?
*Spray washing porta potties
*Picking up roadkill on the highways
*Collecting whale snot in the ocean
It just isn't fair!
I’ve often thought that rule of the guy pays everytime is bullshit… that opens up things for the girl just prending to go on a date for free food..
Example of rights without duties, I think that everyone should be paying for himself in a date.
I don't mind paying if I have enough money. As to why men typically pay, I don't know but it's actually no big deal unless you are struggling financially.
Dates don't have to be expensive anyways.Entitlement.
Because they like money and not spending it.I roll my eyes everytime this question is asked. It's ALWAYS appreciated when she offers to pay. And about half the women I've dated have. But I always intend on paying. Of the myriad of things I'm focused on when on a date, who's paying is last on that list.
Most women I go out with make a lot more than me so it's kind of stupid if they expect me to pay and I let them know that.
He shouldn't. One day the bill on all first dates will be split. The ONLY reason that isn't the norm today is female privilege and hypocrisy about traditional gender roles.
They want free food and a lot of dumb men fall for it.
Why? Usually because the man is the one who ASKED the woman to go out. If he can't afford to pay, don't ask.
Whoever does the asking out should be the one to pay.
Well, should not, in fact. It is a gesture - if she lets him pay she should at a minimum give him.
Initially I don't mind paying, I am a generous guy and don't mind paying for date, or for other male buddies when I am hanging out with them.
That is an ongoing feud. Not worth destroying a potential relationship over. You can offer and his chivalry will probably win out. Just offer once and then thank him with sex. Jk.
Traditional. Hell, even women that work still expect it.
The asker should pay, or at least offer to pay.
It’s probably seen as traditional. I find various different payment agreements to be fair, which can be or include the woman paying.
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