Which one do you do?
Personally, I prefer befriending someone first to get to really know them and develop romantic feelings for them before I would agree to go on a date with them.
i feel like i'm very acceptinh with other people and nothing is wronh with that but other people is so meticulous towards mw. i feel like i lack self-love and i sell myself short. i feel like i criticize myself and look doen on myself too much feelinh that i'm not valuable. if i am a stone i feel like i am just a bronze or q stone with no value... and so now i just wanna stand up for myself and get to know people first and just accept value myself.
i don't wanna feel guilty anymore... i have this tendency where my heart will easily melr with people helpinh me but then fail to realize these people are cunninh and have their oen personal interest thry go after. nothinh is wronh with that but i think i just have to establish my boundaries that if you don't see value on me then don't be with me. this is who i am if you cannot accept it then be witj people you are fond of
i think that's fair rigjt we just want someone who before expecting to be love see values on us. you know i'm fine just beinh able to buy and afford my needs in short i'm fine havinh simple quiet life but i also don't want to struggle financially just enough. i am just a eomqn in love that's why i tolerate i fuckinh don't need to be a celebrity or a famous person. i think there are lots of women out there who want thay so much. if i wanna spread my message about Jesus and prophecy anyone can contqct me and will always willinh to share for the sake of everyone the animals, people...
i will not pressure myself anymore... well i wanna try givinh my share of bread and fish by beinh an influencer and i also like it... it's just these past years i've beem killinh myself to gain acceptance from a man because i do like him romantically but also because he is my soulmate but this person is just not fond of me and that's fine. maybe soulmates are not meant to be romantically together, maybe soulmates meet for them to learn from each othet.
dating to date is something young immature people do. You can do this until you get older when you are running out of time and you can't afford to fuck around anymore. Typically people get their first big awakening by the time they hit 25- its time to find someone.
I like girls. I dated in the hope that we would want to be in an exclusive, boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. I didn't put pressure on the idea of getting married.
After all, I got into my first relationship when I was 16.
I initially wanted a female best friend to hang out, go places and do things with; to confide in, have fun together, hug, kiss, make love, and build memories together. Mutual infatuation is wonderful.
The only way to know that you want to spend the entire rest of your life with someone is to be with them for a long time and essentially act like you are married. You have to know them intimately - their behaviors, habits, attitudes, lifestyle, work ethic, goals, etc., including sexual compatibility.
Marriage changes your life. It is forever. You have to get it right.
Unfortunately, some people are more interested in marriage than in being in a healthy relationship with a person who is a perfect fit. So they'll jump into a marriage just to have kids and eventually wind up unhappy. Hence the high divorce rate.
So for me, marriage was always a possibility, but not my only reason for dating.
You did not add option C" Neither".
My answer is neither.
Well, option B" Dating to marry" is out of question because I never wish to marry in my life.
Option A" Dating to date" is fine but still by choice I will never do this. Why? that is because it would be leading a woman on and making her believe in something that won't happen. Given the fact I only wish to remain single so this is highly unethical and inappropriate.
Hence by choice even option A is ruled out.
Hence I chose neither. There should have been option C in your question.
I agree with you. Your answer made me re-relize how much we humans lead each other on without any bad intentions. Even 3 years of dating doesn't guarantee feelings will stay the same.
So many of my married friends have divorced and become single parents without a chance to escape the drama.
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Dating to marry, within an relational experienced and iInformed Risk, is the only way to live.
There’s no risk or reward in friends with benefits, Significant Other, Partner, or hanging onto the Ex in life or death without Covenant or Contract.
Fear of Loss, immersed in worry, is a personally created prison often confounded by psychotropic prescription and self-medicated abuses.
Dating should be for marriage if not then it's just casual interactions.
I did a bit of both. Some dates were just to have fun, while others were thinking of a long-term relationship.
u Very few people will get to know someone well enough to develop romantic feelings before the first date, first kiss, first holding hands, etc. That sounds like a strategy designed to result in very, very few dates.
Its my opinion that no matter your age , you start off as " date to date " , otherwise its taking the entire thing far too far , now you may then slip into No2 , but this takes time and it should take time , you can't get to No2 without doing No1 first , and as most here are far far younger than myself its even more important , focus must first be on other issues and enjoying life.
I feel for anyone trying to do it the other way around.
Dating to marry , Dating in general to me is just taking things slow while kind of keeping your options open and not rushing into a committed relationship , Dating is just getting to know someone to see how your chemistry and connections is together and to see if you have a lot in common and with the intentions of possibly getting into a committed relationship with each other
I could never see putting the pressure on myself to date someone with the strict goal of marriage. I guess I think about that back of the mind somewhere, but initially, at least I am looking for someone that just has that vibe I like, kind, funny, whatever, and if things escalate to the marriage level, than they do, but if not, I'm fine with just having enjoyed the experience of that person while it lasted.
Dating to marry is the way to go. If both of you are searching for long term you will also try to make it work, if you date to date you will not make sacrifices to stay together for long term.
It's about intentions of both of you
I waited till 23 to get a boyfriend as I wanted to mate for life and I had to think about what I wanted and find the guy who also wanted that
Date to date, is fine if you're under 25 , or 21 even. But the older one gets, the more they should have a goal!
But yeah, it's individual. But most people I believe, date to marry or at least be serious with the intention of having the traditional route of children, etc.
Because I really want a responsible guy or a responsible man who is ready to take care of me and accept my ugly mistakes, and not just a guy who is only after my body or my money only because he wants to satisfy his needs or his family's.
Befriending then dating to marry.
I don't go out on actual dates, I see the term "dating" as a synonym for "already in a relationship, but not yet engaged".
Date to marry but will breakup quickly if i notice more cons throughout the relationship
Since it's my first time dating someone, I would just say dating to date. I'm not sure how our relationship is going to pan out. I would hope it would last a long time and maybe eventually turn into something as serious as marriage but I'm in no rush.
I date to marry because I want to let people know upfront what my intentions are. But I prefer not to get serious right away. Starting off should be casual and informal. You shouldn't commit to someone that you don't know yet.
Neither. Though technically marry. At least same concept, date for a future together. Not just for the sake of dating.
Dating for me is finding out if I want to marry someone while already having the feeling that I might.
This by the way is one reason I want to start any relationship as a friendship.
It will be a few more years before I date looking to get married. However, 80% of my dates are with boys that in a few years I would consider marrying.
C - both
I will date a girl to get to know her and find out whether we are compatible in terms of personality, interests, priorities, life goals and sexuality. When I find the one that is a great fit, I'll ask her to marry me. Hasn't happened yet. In the meantime I'm enjoying the process (and the sex).
I just date. Well actually I don't date much. But what I mean is I have no preconceived plan other than hoping to have something lasting. As I told another woman on here I consider "dating to marry" as very cart before the horse. I can understand wanting to be married in the future. I just think you put too much pressure and expectations on yourself to even be thinking about marriage before you even find someone you want to marry.
just to date, too young to think about getting married
I thought the goal of dating was to find someone you want to marry if whilst getting to know someone I ever think they’re just along for the ride I’ll end things right there tbh
Why the hell do I waste my time and effort on a woman who I'm not going to marry after all?
And what will it to to her feelings?
There are many many things to consider
It's like a responsibility.
Yep, it's better to not have effects rather than affect someone's life badly, in the name of attachment.
Men should never get married, but that doesn't mean men can't date in a committed relationship.
Dating to marry… and it worked! My fiancé and I got engaged pretty quickly because going into it marriage was the end goal for us both and we matched on everything important.
but for (possibly a minority) of, at least us guys, that actually makes rhings worse as we then get more worried about loosing or messing up the friendship already built.
Dating to marry. I mean not really marry necessary but you know having high standards and not just dating someone because I'm bored or lonely.
Date to marry or at least live together at some point lmao..
No point to date just to date and waste people's time
I date in hopes of a long term relationship.
My purpose of dating is to find someone to settle down with…. I’m way past that teenage phase where people only date to date at that age lol…. after age 30 most people look to settle down…
Dating to marry sounds too forceful
Date to Date just get to know each other
like that song says “ First comes Love then comes marriage “
I value long term relationships. It doesn't have to end in marriage though.
I prefer getting to know someone first, so I prefer the experience gained from dating and just having a decent day to ourselves.
Date to date, because it’s about getting to know them. Not just outright martyring an utter stranger.
Date to marry
Life span is 70 years old if you are lucky and no car crashes you don’t be an idiot and waste your time for fun dating
Never dated. Not fond of marrying either. So neither. Unless it seems best for me in all aspects.
Death and impermanence are the only things guaranteed in life. I wouldn't want to marry someone just to end in some divorce. Wouldn't like to just lead false lives around one another without any real connection.
I don’t ever want to get married, it’s only a title. Most married people are miserable and unhappy. It’s overrated in my opinion.
I date to date. I’m not interested in marriage at this time
I see nothing interesting in dating if you don't expect it to last.
I wouldn't date at all. Callboy's dont date 🤣
I’m not ready to settle down yet
"dating to marry" doesn't exist
Why's that?
What’s the difference?
Based on my interpretation, the methods and the end goals are the difference
What confused me is you said you wanted to become friends before dating. But your choices in the poll both say date
I'm basically saying my vote goes to "date to marry". A date is the same in both contexts, except it happens at different timelines of which two people know each other and/or with different intentions.
I also think we should date to marry. So the date to date option is for those people who wanna meet up and not marry anyone right?
The. Challenge to just being friends and not dating someone new is when one person starts to have feelings and the other isn’t attracted
I would like to get married
Dating to marry for sure.
WHen I used to date, I did it for sex.
I don’t believe in dating I believe in Courtship.
Dating to date. These hoes ain't loyal.
Date to fuck
Date to marry
Date too Mary 100%
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