Ever felt unworthy?

[Anonymous]

I am starting to accept it

[SteveSmith1985]

No... It's certainly not a good way to "accept" feeling.

Unworthy of what?

Why?

[Asker]

I'm not worthy or real genuine healthy love. I'll never get it. If I can ill end up being maybe 60. I crave love too much...

[SteveSmith1985]

But everybody craves love. That's universal.

What would make anybody unworthy of real geunine healthy love? What offence must a person commit? What stains do you feel tarnish your soul to make you unworthy of real or genuine love?

Have you harmed a great number of people? Perhaps orchestrated a genocide somewhere? Killed babies for fun while they mother's watched? Seriously, what kind of person is unworthy of love?

[Asker]

Someone like me🥺
Apparently I am unworthy.
I am used no matter how big my heart is

[Asker]

I won't get marriage. No one's crazy about me.

[SteveSmith1985]

Ah, so that's where you're getting mixed up.

You've got a big heart, and you've been mistreated. That is very different.

That's got nothing to do with being unworthy. That has everything to do with having loved someone unworthy. You've got this backwards.

[Asker]

It seems everyone I'm into may be unworthy? The one I'm with now he doesn't think taking me out on dates is important. He says he's saving for our future but I get no effort. It makes me sad. He seems to not be able to do anything for me... without me always asking if he can do it. Yet, he doesn't have to ask for help and I'm always going to him.. or he expects me to. We don't have passion or butterflys. We were desperate. I'm unfortunately pregnant. I deserve it

[SteveSmith1985]

I can't quite say whether the one your with now is unworthy. The fact that you're pregnant does make his worry about saving for the future quite legitimate.

It depends on your situation. What you say about him not wanting to take you out on dates; feeling like he doesn't do anything without you having to ask; and not feeling any passion or butterflies would all lead me to say "yea... sounds like he might not be worthy".

But, that really depends. You said "We were desperate." I'm not sure if that means financially, or emotionally. But if you meant financially, then I donno, a different possible picture emerges for me (this might be totally incorrect, it's just a possiblility).

But I picture a guy stressed-the-fuck out at the thought that he's got a kid on the way, and doesn't feel financially able to provide for that kid the way he wants to. So this stressed out guy, truly is saving for your future... because he's just so focused on your child. That stressed-out-guy... I can picture maybe not being the greatest boyfriend while that stressed out.

Is there anything to that second picture?

It sounds like he might be the wrong guy for you, more than that he's unworthy. If he is indeed trying his best to be a good dad, that's admirable. But if you're unhappy, it's the wrong guy.

(I'm shocked to hear that the poster of this is in a relationship tbh)

[rosemilk]

of course, all of the time. so far i've been proven right because i've stayed in the same spot for years...

[VikingWarLord]

Stop cutting your hair, lose the weight and dress somewhat sexy.

You'll start to feel "worthy" again

[Asker]

Just because men want sexy... doesn't make a girl worthy... lol

[Asker]

Sex**

[Asker]

I say that because I was ssxy for 20+ years... and was nothing but used up in my life

[VikingWarLord]

If you really believed that, then you wouldn't feel 'unworthy' now would ya there little sunny girl?

[VikingWarLord]

you just couldn't resist us hot, alpha bad boy azzholes now could ya?

[Asker]

?
I've lived a "worthy" life style... you get used. And played with

[Asker]

I stopped at 23
I'm 31 now. I been knew to stop messing with bad boys. No one is worthy of my time

[VikingWarLord]

I already know what you look like from your responses. I know your "type"

[Asker]

Okay?

[VikingWarLord]

Yeah we should all be saying "okay?" to this random azz question you put on here. What are you're looking for as a response is anyone's guess

[Asker]

Others opinions. You stated yours
Thanks have a good 1

[FilmGuy93]

I used to feel that way. I'm doing a lot better now.

[Asker]

That's really good.
How did you glow up?

[FilmGuy93]

For me, it was obtaining professional success as an artist. I kinda reached this level of professional success where it became undeniable that I was good at what I did. That confidence boost spilled over into other aspects of my life.