Have you ever felt unlovable and if yes why?

[Anonymous]

I have kinda felt like this recently. I was turned by a girl who was into me for very long time. We were seeing each other for a while and things were looking good. I feel like she just my looks but not really me. I have never had proper relationship. Only once when i was 15 but we were kids and it was awkward. I feel like i can't find anyone who will not leave me like nothing or if i can find someone like her. But what would they like about my anyway

[devilish-cutie]

yes plenty people feel unlovable and seeing how great you are (self love) is very important to work on, thus increases your confiedence. however self love won't make you not feel lonely but in order to get a partner that you really get along with is major issue for actually many people. Planty of people get into relationship/marriage but dont actually love the other person, they settle or just dont wanna be alone so they take what they can get. That is like reality, thats why so many get divorce. Point is there is nothing wrong with you, finding love is generally hard and it takes effort, that is the truth of it, effort in working on ysf and effort you put into meeting people/finding someone; none of that it will just happen, that is a fed lie. It can just happen but its not someting one can count on.