Have you ever experienced unrequited love — either as the unrequitee or the unrequitor?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah, and it kinda sucks. I met him when I was 14 and became good friends. Until I was 16 I really liked him and I told him. He stood back one step, kinda ignored me for a week. For a whole year, my feelings for him never faded away until the day I saw him kiss the girl everybody shipped him with. It feels like all that happiness in the world left me. then from that moment he became distant and changed. He started making out with girls he didn't know (and everytime he did that I was the one who "caught" him do it). I grew jealous and desperate so I did the same thing. I kissed random guys and he would be present. The most damaging part was that although he had that attitude and I copied him, I liked him so much. Not because he kissed and hooked up with so many girls, it was because I thought one part of him was still the funny boy I met before telling him my feelings. His attitude became worse by the end of highschool. I realized that there would be better things to focus on, mostly studying cause entrance (college) exams were near. I noticed he failed all of the subjects on purpose and people started believing he had a mental problem. There was one (last) shool party we had, we were both drunk and I kinda remember both us hugging for a very long time. The last time we saw each other was the next day at school. We crossed paths with each other at the school's main office but he ignored me and walked away. One of my wishes was to sit together in graduation and take a photo to remember the best memories I had with him, but he didn't come... he had failed miserably his exams and didn't graduate and I have not seen him since. I've seen people talk about the ptsd school gave them and that it also bothers them when they dream. Well, 3 years have passed and I still dream of him, although my feelings for him have gone away. Thinking about it, this looks like a wattpad shit haha but it's not obviously. I think that it is better to stay away as possible from someone after telling him/her your feelings about them and getting rejected, cause things may come down very badly, but I don't know others' experiences

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I've had guy literally seem like they fell in love with me before they even talked to me, they spend weeks or months building up courage to ask me out and have some fantasy that I'll be madly in love with them when they do.

They finally get the courage to ask and I either decline or agree to a date and its crazy cause they will act like we are a couple or something and when I try to say hey slow down or I'm not really interested it breaks their heart.

Can't return feelings to someone I don't really know, even though in their own little fantasy world they've already been with me for a long time and I'm just not that person they imagined.

CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

Yep. Yes. I was the one who did not return l the feelings, because it's always like every other relationship. Nothing lasts more than a month and nothing lasts more than a year if we even get that far. My shortest breakup was three days after I got my girlfriend back, she broke up with me because I got her the wrong pads during her period. She normally used to stayfree pads, and I got of the posie pads instead. I told her that I went to seven different stores could not find the stayfree ones, and everybody in the store kept telling me that posie. We argued for about 20 minutes, then she said we're breaking up and I was done with it and her. A week later she called and apologized for overreacting on that I tried my best and she wanted me to come back to her and I said hell to the no. I told her that, I was supposed to be her boyfriend not her servant or her slave. If something is out of stock or don't have you got to make alternatives. Most boyfriends wouldn't want to go through this and let women handle it but as a boyfriend I have to be loyal and committed and trying my best to satisfy her but it's just too much. She kept calling and calling after I said no and texting me saying that she sorry and I just tossed my phone out the window. I am so sick and tired of sticking my neck out for women that I want to be with and they just take me for granted. Sometimes feelings can't be returned after going through all that. 50/50 it's supposed to be in the relationship. Nothing more nothing less.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

That's the only kind of love I've experienced lol. But it's OK because I don't believe unrequited love is a real thing. That is I don't believe when you love someone and it's not returned is really love. Because when you think about it it's foolishness. If you think you love someone. And at no point do they love you back why would you continue to have feelings for that person? It's not even close to rational. You're a fool if you continue.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

I’m in love with one of my best friends, but I refuse to give in to those feelings because I value his friendship too much to risk losing it.

I also once accidentally rejected someone once. He came up to me in the store after I hadn’t seen him for months and asked me out on the spot. I just kind of froze up and stuttered trying to explain that I had never considered him an option and would have to get to know him better.

He took it as rejection and walked away with his head hung low…I felt horrible…

NathanDavis · Answer

I've been on both sides... of unrequested interest, and let's call it start-up feelings

not quite love because I only consider it actual love, when it's shared by two souls, rather than a one sided infatuation

but yes, I've been infatuated a couple of times before, and squashed those unrequited feelings down as well... lol

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

No, neither both ways.  Meanwhile, why did you post the dog's pick?   Did the dog refuse to return the feeling or is the dog the neglected one?

TrueConfection · Answer

I voted A, but I have experienced unrequited love both ways.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but as both options. (unrequitee and unrequitor) Guess it happens to everyone at least once lol

victoriaxoxo · Answer

There is not an option there but I experienced both being the one in love and the other person not giving a sh*t and also being the one who’s just having fun with someone whilst they were in love with me.

TadCurious · Answer

Vivant I voted A. I have been the unrequitee which is an interesting word that my spell check keeps wanting to change to unrequited.
Lol. Not that being an unrequitee is a laughing matter though.
😂🤣🐕🦜

bexar0010 · Answer

It's funny because I've never really even talked to guys (I was very shy in school and now I hardly go out 🤷‍♀️). But I have had my fair share of crushes. Some I've shared maybe a word with (lol), but most I just liked from afar. This one time, and it was a really weird situation, I got my crush's # (I was a weird one I tell you). I told him how I felt and he told me that he was only interested in sex. Which I thought was weird because an old mutual friend of ours told me he was asexual.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

I’ve had it happen twice where guys had feelings toward me and I wasn’t able to have feelings in return. I felt just awful for them.

Bluemax · Answer

I have experienced unrequited love where my feelings weren't returned and where I didn't return the feelings of another woman.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Well, growing up I've had a bunch of crushes on guys that didn't reciprocate, so yeah.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I’ve experienced both, though more often I did not return the feelings

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I have no idea! What is it? I've heard the word several times before but have no idea what it means.

exitseven · Answer

I have experienced this before. One particular time was really painful.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I've given love and never felt loved in return I hope this is correct?

AMA_ImAnOpenBook · Answer

Well i see now that you can only click 1 option. I have been on both the giving and receiving end of the unrequited love.

KatherineJ · Answer

No. I’m very lucky. I have been in love once, and he loves me too.

Still-alive · Answer

Story of my life lol. dont think I've ever been the one not requitting though

Deku2009 · Answer

Yeah I have a couple of women I know but my dog shows me a lot of love

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I voted A, cute dog by the way!

mobiusforniner · Answer

Been on both sides of that fence.

humanearth · Answer

I don't understand the question

pleasestopthis · Answer

Yes, and I've been in both positions

Jintendo18 · Answer

Yeah, when I was a teen (and a virgin lol)

Juxtapose · Answer

Yeeep haha, who haven't?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You forgot to include an option for both.

msc545 · Answer

Both really. Painful as hell.

bulletbob555 · Answer

It happens to us all. Its just part of loving

Deserter · Answer

Both, it hurts either way 😔

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

is that why you have so many pets lol.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

What exactly is that? Not having mutual feelings?

BestWoman · Answer

Of course ahh omer ahh i never forget him

Anonymous · Answer

My mother loved me that way.

Ninani · Answer

Yes to both.

melanieeeB · Answer

Who hasn't? tho

888theGreat · Answer

look at the baby

Joker_ · Answer

Yeah

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