If you tell someone (you kinda dated) to not contact you again and then you block them?

[Anonymous]

But they proceed to message you somewhere else saying they care about you and have done for a long time.
What do you think of this?

They still like and want to get back

They just want to be friends

They’re obsessed

[ManOnFire]

First, kudos to you for not ghosting the person and for being mature enough to let them know you don't want to date them anymore. You did the right thing. If you had to tell them not to contact you anymore, it had to be because they wouldn't leave you alone which was why you blocked them. You're also okay to do that in this situation.

To answer about why they're doing it: I voted obsession. They obviously do like you and want to get back with you, but they're being obsessive about it. They're heart broken about the breakup and suffering from anxiety, but they have to overcome this hurt. Not you.

But what do you think of what they're doing?

[OlderAndWiser]

"you kinda dated" You weren't clear with each other about the status of your relationship? Perhaps that is why he doesn't understand what is happening now, or maybe it is his excuse for refusing to accept it now. How clear were you when you told him "no contact!"?

[Asker]

It was complicated.

Refusing to accept what now?

I literally said please don’t contact me I don’t wanna hear from you.

[Raven121u]

Obviously it would be obsession because it happens 8 times when my mom says she broke him off but never did. I'm disappointed in her

[Guy13]

Oops, I forgot to block at "that point". Block him now and forget about him.

[Asker]

I did block but he messaged me on another app

[Anonymous]

If you have explicitly told someone to not contact you again and then blocked them, it is important to respect your own boundaries and prioritize your own well-being.

If they continue to message you elsewhere, it may be a sign that they are not respecting your wishes and boundaries, which is concerning behavior. It's important to prioritize your own safety and well-being, and to communicate directly and firmly with them if they continue to ignore your boundaries.

It's also important to trust your instincts and to take any necessary steps to protect yourself, such as blocking them on other platforms or contacting authorities if you feel unsafe or threatened. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and treats you with kindness and respect.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Obsession.

[Asker]

What makes you say that

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Nobody keeps going after being told, don't talk to me ever again, without some obsessive behavior.

[Asker]

They might just want to have the last say