Can I ask a guy out to coffee as a friend?

[Anonymous]

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Coffee is coffee & a friend is a friend & as for your guy friend you can ask him out for coffee as long as your local laws don’t prohibit it.

[ThomasDavid1989]

But you'll have to say I'm going out with a guy "friend", but in a way that doesn't put the two words together, LMAO

[Asker]

He’s a really nice guy. I’d like to at least talk to him more if not eventually date (if he’s interested).

[ThomasDavid1989]

Then he's not a "friend". He never was

[Asker]

Well we went to school growing up together. And I just wanted to reconnect. Didn’t know each other that well but he’s a really nice and smart guy.

[Iron_Man]

Yeah nobody better explain the situation first

[Nikki1989]

Of course, I do it all the time.

[Asker]

Awesome! What do you say to them? I’m asking him on Facebook

[Nikki1989]

I just simply ask them out for coffee. The word "date" never comes up.

[Asker]

I’m cute but I don't know if he’s single.

[magiusX26]

you sure can. if you want it platonic, state that

[In_Trance]

What's your endgame?

[Asker]

Seduce him obviously 😉 😂 jk. Well at least be friends and then if there’s something there we can become more if he feels the same

[In_Trance]

I'd advise against. You're sending mixed messages by doing this. You're in or out

[Asker]

So what should I do

[In_Trance]

make a decision. Do you want to be friends or not?
friends is a very different dynamic than a potential relationship. Don't confuse the two

[Asker]

I don’t wanna be friends haha

[In_Trance]

So then be clear in your communication and actions

[Asker]

Can I just straight up ask “want to do coffee sometime?”

[In_Trance]

Sure just leave out "as a friend"

[Asker]

Lmao okay

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yeah.