Can u date and be poor?

[SpudSteer]

My friend is poor and he is depressed because he thinks women hate him because he doesn’t have money all the time but he actively tries to find work any advice

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is possible to date even if you are poor. While financial stability can be a factor in dating, it's not the only factor. Many people value other qualities in a partner, such as kindness, empathy, humor, and shared interests.

It's important for your friend to focus on building his self-confidence and highlighting his positive qualities when he's dating. He can also try to be creative in planning dates that don't require a lot of money, such as picnics in the park, hiking or walking together, or cooking a meal at home.

Your friend should also be upfront and honest with potential partners about his financial situation. This can help avoid any misunderstandings or miscommunications down the line. And while it's understandable to feel discouraged, it's important for your friend to keep trying and to remember that he is more than his financial situation.

[SpudSteer]

Yeah but he also can’t get women to be interested in him so that’s why he gets depressed

[Opinion Owner]

It's understandable that your friend may feel discouraged if he's having difficulty getting women to be interested in him, but it's important for him to remember that attraction is not solely based on financial status.

Encourage your friend to focus on other aspects of his life that make him a great catch, such as his personality, sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, and other positive qualities. Suggest that he engage in hobbies or interests that he enjoys, which can help him meet new people who share his interests and values.

It's also important for your friend to have confidence in himself and to believe that he is deserving of love and respect, regardless of his financial situation. Encourage him to work on building his self-esteem and to approach dating with a positive and open mindset.

Ultimately, finding a partner is not solely based on financial status and it's important for your friend to prioritize his own well-being and happiness, regardless of his relationship status.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Girlfriends are expensive.
Unless she's ok with a guy who can't take her to do fun things and buy her stuff, he's not gonna have much luck with most women.

I'm sure there's some little non-judgmental poor girl that would happy to have him though.

This might piss some people off, but it's the truth.
There's even girls on here complaining that their boyfriends never take them out because they're too broke

[TheSpaceGnome]

Gold diggers aren't wife material so they don't count. Any woman who dates for money, divorces for money.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm not even talking about gold diggers, just your average woman.
The only women who don't complain about their broke ass boyfriends are the ones who don't have to

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Unless she's ok with a guy who can't take her to do fun things and buy her stuff, he's not gonna have much luck with most women."

"There's even girls on here complaining that their boyfriends never take them out because they're too broke"

Sir, sorry to burst your bubble, but thats what a gold digger is.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Women who do that will just take your money and leave, so they do not count.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Well you misread it.
Girls like to go out and do things and have fun, and most of things cost money.
If she's the one paying all the time or they straight up can't do those things, eventually she'll find a guy who can support that

Way of the world bud. I'm not saying they just want money, but they want a life

[TheSpaceGnome]

I did not misread it, how you just described it, is how I intepreted it.

Thats a gold digger bud.

She should be able to afford that on her own while single, thats not going to change while taken.

People can pay for their own stuff. If she expects him to pay her way, she's just gonna divorce him to collect alimony.

So I reiterate, those women, the kind you just clarified, are gold diggers, and do not count.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Exactly, people can pay for their own stuff. Which is why women want a man who has his shit together and can carry his own weight. Not to mention all the other bullshit that goes along with dating someone with no money and no car.

I never said they want a man to pay for everything.

I think we're actually on the same page

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Maybe I misspoke

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats fine, except the car part, I'm a city person, we don't need cars, its a waste of money.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

True, fair enough

[Guy13]

Not anyone that I would want to marry but yeah... one can always date.

[magiusX26]

people have been doing since people were "invented"

[Anonymous]

You can but it is going to hamper you. You better at least be really attra tive if you ain't got a fat bank account.