Did love find you when you weren't paying attention or is it just a false saying?

Question

Greedier · Accepted Answer

I don't know, I don't think that quote's true.

"love finds you when you're not looking" can be seen as a false saying because it implies that you have to stop actively searching for love in order to find it. In reality, finding love often requires actively putting yourself out there, meeting new people, and being open to new experiences. While it's true that love can sometimes come unexpectedly or from unexpected sources, it's not something that will simply appear out of nowhere without any effort on your part. So, it's important to strike a balance between being open and receptive to love while also actively seeking it out.

I've realised lots of rom-coms are based on this quote and in its magical innuendo and sense that as soon as you start looking for it, love or whatever will find its way to you. And well, it seems to work well for rom-coms and be a popular trope choice between the audience. Although, it's worth bearing in mind that this is only fantasy. Irl most of the time, balance is the key word.

It's not healthy for you to start constantly looking for love so much that you become obsessed about it and makes of it your life goal.

But it's also unrealistic of you to think that love will just pop up out of the blue without you having to put in any effort into getting to know new people.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

The few times where I met guys I could have married or been serious was I was not looking for love. Usually just trying to do what I thought God wanted.

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

It's probably true for women but it's a lie for most guys. If I'm not paying attention, then I won't be prepared if it finds me. I'll probably just ignore it because I'm off in my own world and it'll pass on by. Then I'll see it in my rearview mirror and wonder why, if it was love, why didn't it pursue me. Then I'll remember that it's because women don't pursue. They just give occasional vague hints and expect you to pursue. That's why you always have to be paying attention.

OfMiceandMen · Accepted Answer

I think it is somewhat accurate. I wasn't looking for anyone when I met my SO, we met at a fundraiser for the hospital and it started from there.

Anonymous · Answer

It's largely a false saying. People don't change really. Someone didn't fall in love with you. They just simply noticed you. And the created a story in their head about you that bolstered those feelings. In actuality you didn't have much to do with it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes this absolutely just happened to me. I finally found real love for the first time in my life.. I had given up thinking I was too old or to unlovable... then out of no where I meet this girl who was not looking for love either.. we started chatting because we had similar interests and it grew from there. Now I can't imagine my life with out her.

DJB72 · Answer

I'd made peace with being single when I met my wife. I didn't expect to fall in love and I wasn't looking.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I'm always paying attention. Hyper aware of my surroundings like a god damn cat. So no...

Gibbons44 · Answer

That was in the days when people arranged love for each other. Now they arrange prostitution and STDs.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Not that it's a false saying. It happens to some people. I was actively looking for it this year :)

BoobSlayer · Answer

I always ended up in detention, but I brought my adult magazines with me.

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m not sure about that but it could be just a coincidence?

Jd578 · Answer

I can’t vouch for everyone else but every single romantic encounter I have had in all my 23 years of life has come to me randomly. One of them being a 2 year relationship

Anonymous · Answer

It has not happened yet I have been single for 5 years, so nothing has happened yet.

Anonymous · Answer

It's true that I found it when I'm not looking and I lost it when I got attached to it

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

It happened to me when I least expected it. I wasn't looking when it happened.

DizzyDesii · Answer

More like love wants to find you when you're already taken

serious · Answer

It is a false saying. However, I do know love is a beautiful thing.

melanieeeB · Answer

The saying is true, when you least expect it, it somehow might happen

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Yes. That’s when it happened. When I wasn’t looking for it.

Heolurt · Answer

It's just something attractive people say, knowing it only works for them, it doesn't work for ugly bottom feeders like myself.

humanearth · Answer

It always happens when your not looking for it

motownplayer2000 · Answer

It’s true. I wasn’t really looking and it found me. Well not love, just circumstance, that turned into opportunity. Love came much later.

Freyke · Answer

I was paying attention goddamn that ass, and those eyes!

Jltakk · Answer

False saying. There's zero guarantee any of this is going to happen.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not true for men as men has to take the initiatives...

cryscrys1 · Answer

False and a delusion

magiusX26 · Answer

so far in my life, that saying has been a lie.

Alex8736 · Answer

in my experience Yes it did

LiamJHayden · Answer

Love has never found me.

Iron_Man · Answer

You never know when it’s gonna happen

Jay3344 · Answer

Happened to me

Anonymous · Answer

Just a saying.

Did love find you when you weren't paying attention or is it just a false saying?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Did love find you when you weren't paying attention or is it just a false saying?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.