Men are to blame for the imbalance in dating. Do you agree?

[Anonymous]

I see a lot of men online complaining about how women have really high standards, but guess how that happened.

It’s because most men are desperate. Take tinder for example. They swipe right on almost every girl, without even looking at pics and bio.

In real life how many times have you heard “i thought you were really cute and wanted your number” as their first conversation with a stranger?

No wonder women take it for granted. If women did that to men, we would also take it for granted and be more “lazy” about initiating.

[lovenonstop]

Women have high standards because we are done with men thinking they can do the bare minimum for a relationship. Take this as an example: loyalty. That is a bare minimum that anyone should do in a relationship but we should praise a man for being a decent human being and not doing someone wrong. We have high standards because it helps us weed out the men that aren’t any good for us, that think they can talk and treat women however they want and that we should just take it.


Or the ones who demand respect but what have they don’t to gain it? Because he’s a man, goes to work and pays bills. That’s bare minimum. You would have to do that if you were in a relationship or not. So they need to stop thinking that we have to praise and respect them for that? Do I get praised and respected for working, making sure the house is done, taking care of children, dinner, groceries, laundry, etc? No. We don’t. We get told that what we do is easy. Sorry I didn’t sign up to pick up your dirty clothes off the bathroom floor like you are a 5 year old.


I need a grown man who will lead his family. Being a good example and not feel entitled to get what he wants. Needs to take accountability.

[Nikki1989]

Women have high standards because most men are not worth investing time in.

[Asker]

Is it the personality or the looks, or both?

[UniquelyBasic]

Some women have some crazy high standards though 😂 Its not even quality stuff either but just the superficial traits. People have the right to have whatever standards they want but some people prioritize the wrong things.

[Asker]

Superficial traits matter a lot. Cold hard truth.

As a man, if there was a girl who you think has a really good personality, but had the option to look better, you always would go for that. Same for women. You can't fake attraction.

I can't date women that are chubby, even slightly. I go to the gym and expect her to be fit too.

[UniquelyBasic]

Well duh, they matter a lot. I'm not saying people can't want a partner they are attracted to physically but sometimes I feel people aren't prioritizing other things that are way more important to long term happiness.

[strlb]

I tend to agree with you on this one mate