So I really think my boyfriend is too dramatic. Example recently I’ve stopped being able to org*sm in bed and I’ve stopped wanting to do anything sexual and he’s worried I’m going to break up with him even though i told him it wasn’t him.
I’ve told him, him being dramatic is eventually going to make me break up with him and he got really upset about that and said I shouldn’t mention breaking up unless I want to. But I explained plenty of couples threaten a break up it’s normal. he gets so upset by it. I’ve mentioned like 4 times breaking up if he keeps being dramatic and he still is.. am I wrong?
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You’re the problem. You’ve stopped being intimate with him and I assume you’ve never told him why. A lot of couples break up after they stop being intimate. Intimacy is like glue in a relationship. And commonly, if one partner stops being intimate, they’re receiving that intimacy elsewhere (cheating). So he is not being dramatic.
And threatening to break up with him is extremely cruel and immature. That is NOT normal in a healthy relationship. Especially threatening to 4 times! I feel sad for him, dealing with this behaviour coming from you. You really need to communicate better with him, and stop gaslighting him by telling him he’s being dramatic.
He genuinely is dramatic a lot. I don’t think it’s cruel or immature I’m simply explaining if he doesn’t stop his behaviour then I will break up him. I’m being honest. He needs to learn him being dramatic causes fights. What’s wrong with that?
Sounds more like him being “dramatic” only causes fights because you don’t actually listen to him, you gaslight him and you’re reluctant to actually talk things through.
Ofcourse you’re not going to think it’s cruel or immature. You don’t see or understand what you’re doing to him. Honestly just break up with him. Stop threatening him and just do it. It’s pathetic, your behaviour. Let him move on and find a healthy partner.
“to. But I explained plenty of couples threaten a break up it’s normal.”
thats not normal. Those are called ultimatums and are highly manipulative.
your boyfriend was right to be upset. Have you stopped to think you just aren’t sexually attracted to him anymore hence why you can’t orgasm? If thats the case then yeah you probably should break up. You can't force attraction.
They’re not ultimatums I’m simply explaining if he doesn’t stop his behaviour then I will break up with him over it. It’s me being honest what’s wrong with that? It’s not to do with him I still find him attractive
@asker that is the definition of an ultimatum.
"if you do/dont do this then i will do this other thing you do not want" translates to "do what i want or else..."
you're both wrong